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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Would this put u off selling?

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Suzie119999 · 22/03/2022 00:07

Maybe I’m BU but just wanted readers insight/experience. We’re first time sellers and had lots of viewing last weekend for our home. Just for context and not to drip feed the EA made it very clear they are to show people around the property and not us. Told us we can stay whilst they showing but usually best to not be there which I totally 100% agree with. Well on Saturday we were waiting for EA to come and pick key up and we could then leave as it was open day for our house with over 27 bookings. Knock on door and it’s a potential buyer whose there 35 mins before the open day starts! I explained it doesn’t start yet and the couple start huffing and saying just let them in and have a quick look, I asked their names just to make sure they were booked in as I was home alone with my young kids. I phoned up EA to check and they said under no circumstances should I and they are way too early. I tell this to buyer and she said no it’s up to me not the EA! Lots of back and forth but finally the couple get in the car. I was a little shaken up (I know it’s silly, but I hate confrontations). So I bundled up the kids in the car and waited for EA. They came and I left.

Well today I find the couple has made an offer. I feel a little uneasy as I have also gone to view houses with DH but we don’t turn up early and then insist the owners show us around! I felt very uncomfortable with the couples attitude.

So my AIBU is - do I ignore this behaviour and just see it as a transaction which it obviously is OR is it a red flag of more problems the buyer will cause? I’m imagining they will make ridiculous demands and probably just turn up to show all their relatives the home if we accept their offer. They are FTB

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Cheeserton · 22/03/2022 00:13

Very tricky... They do sound like jerks alright though.

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Suzie119999 · 22/03/2022 00:15

@Cheeserton thank you. I thought maybe it was just me but it felt very uncomfortable. They could see I had little kids and I was flustered. The lady also lied as she told me she’s rang the EA that’s she’s going to be early and they said to knock on door but EA confirmed that was not true!

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Isausernameavailable · 22/03/2022 00:17

Don't inflict them on your neighbours

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Suzie119999 · 22/03/2022 00:19

Just for next times sake - what would you do in my situation? DH said I should have just shown them around.

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MarmiteCoriander · 22/03/2022 00:32

This too would have really annoyed me. Its one thing to arrive early and say 'I'm so sorry, I realise its earlier than planned but would you mind ....' for them to lie that the EA was aware and demand to get seen at that time then absolutely NO to the CF!!!!

So because they have made an offer, did they actually view the house at the regular time? Was the offer significantly more than others? Unless it was double the others then no- being a CF in my book doesn't get them the prize! Esp if you got on with any of the neighbours and dont want to inflict these people on them.

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Suzie119999 · 22/03/2022 00:40

@MarmiteCoriander yes it was the attitude that really annoyed me. It was like she was doing me a favour and I was inconveniencing her!

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Davros · 22/03/2022 00:41

If you got other offers, or you are confident that you will, don't go with these twats. If they do this just on the viewing they will do it throughout the process. Twats are gonna twat

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Suzie119999 · 22/03/2022 00:42

No the offer is just below asking price. I have every confidence our home will sell for over asking.

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Saracen · 22/03/2022 00:57

TBH if I thought I'd get more money by selling to these people, or that it would be quicker and easier, I'd suck up their rudeness.

But the blatant lying is worrying. What else might they have lied about, or intend to lie about? Are they really FTBs? Do they actually have the mortgage offer they claim to have? etc They could seriously mess you around.

DropYourSword · 22/03/2022 01:02

@Suzie119999

Just for next times sake - what would you do in my situation? DH said I should have just shown them around.

If anyone turned up I would just firmly say they have to arrive at the right time. Be firm.

But it wouldn't put me off them as sellers - if anything it makes them sound very keen which can be a good thing!!

tkwal · 22/03/2022 01:17

That's why you let the EAs do it, so you don't have to deal with all the CFs.

sst1234 · 22/03/2022 01:45

You’re selling a house, not going into a business partnership with them. If you like the offer and they are proceedable, why does the interaction matter.

Speakuptomakeyourselfheard · 22/03/2022 02:05

I too can't help wondering if they're really FTB's, as an ex estate agent, it is very rare for FTB's to feel confident enough to be pushy, let alone bolshy with vendors. In my opinion they got there early in the hope of beating the crowds, and getting first dibs on the house, perhaps they even thought that if they absolutely fell in love with it, they could make an offer straight away and maybe that would even stop anyone else having the chance to have a look. However, my advice would be, contact your agent a.s.a.p to check, if they haven't already told you, whether they have vetted these people yet, ie, have they got a mortgage offer that has been confirmed by the agent. This is really important when making your decision, as the last thing you want is to instruct solicitors only to find that they don't actually have funds in place. You seem confidant that you will get other offers, so I would be inclined also to tell them that you won't accept or dismiss their offer at this stage, as you still have a lot of appointments to view, and will get back to them when you've made a decision. That way you're telling them that they're not the only one's interested, and they may be inclined to up the offer. I would agree with a PP though, it's a business transaction, so if you're happy with any offer you receive from them and the agent can back it up knowing that all is in place, accept it and get on with things.

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 22/03/2022 02:20

I'd try and avoid tbh, they sound like arseholes. Depends on how sure you are that you'll get other offers I suppose though, no point cutting off your nose to spite your face.

I do think buyers are expecting alot lately. I think its solicitors going over the top. We're in the middle of selling/buying in Scotland and so far we've changed the moving date after we'd all agreed to it, they've got us paying architect fees to do a drawing that I could have done (They arent even visiting the house to do it!!), they are asking for receipts of everything that has been done to the house too. Not the guarantees, the actual receipts to make sure we used proper companies etc.
Its insulting to imply that I'd break the law to install an illegal woodburner just to save a few quid.

I get they want to be thorough, but I cannot wait to be done. We've now decided to take everything we can legally take with us, even if it means an extra trip to the dump to get rid of it.

fuzzyduck1 · 22/03/2022 12:26

Selling houses in the stoke area has turned into some kind of blind auction.
The estate agent advertises the price then invites offers. Most houses have loads of offers over the asking price in the first day. Maybe the estate agent doesn’t want you involved in the first bit as you may except the first offer of the asking price where the offers that come in after that may be higher. It also gives the other viewers a chance to put in a offer before deciding on who you should except.

TooManyPJs · 22/03/2022 12:35

I agree. I would decline their offer as they sound like CFs and they lied to you.

However it's really not up to the EA to dictate who you show your house to. They can advise you (and the homeowner not being there for viewings is good advice imo) but not tell you what to do. That's up to you ultimately. That would piss me off as much as the viewing CFs tbh!

xILikeJamx · 22/03/2022 13:28

Maybe different in Scotland, but every home I've ever been to view has been the owner showing us round. Absolutely no harm in you showing people round. Offers will come via the selling agent anyway so it's not like you could do anything daft on the spot.

Obviously in this case they were there really early and you didn't feel comfortable so you did the right thing telling them to sod off. It wouldn't stop me taking their money though

TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 22/03/2022 14:42

Maybe different in Scotland, but every home I've ever been to view has been the owner showing us round

I'm in Scotland and there's no rule against it, I've sold 2 houses, my first they charged a fee for the estate agent to do them, so I did them, and my second the it was included in the price and they said they'd rather do them anyway. They were very much into social media and presentation though, no bad thing though.

And as you say, no harm in a seller showing around, most we viewed had that!

RitaFires · 22/03/2022 14:54

I would prefer not to do business with such pushy people, who knows what else they could be unreasonable about.

I wonder if someone told them to try and talk directly to the sellers so you'd be more sympathetic to their offer, they've definitely made the wrong impression.

Notanotherwindow · 22/03/2022 15:01

I'd not do business with them if I had other offers. They're CF and liars to boot. They are the kind of people who can make selling a house hell.

MarinoRoyale · 22/03/2022 15:09

I wouldn’t sell to them, if they’re winding you up before even viewing it, think how demanding they’d be if they ended up buying it!

I know you’re not meant to be emotional when selling a house but I always am, we sold our last house to a couple I felt would take care of the history of the house more than someone making a slightly higher offer but was going to rip out all the character. Unless you’re desperate to sell, I’d turn down their offer without a backward glance.

LaurieFairyCake · 22/03/2022 15:10

Just say thanks for offer but that you're expecting more offers - neutral

Don't cut your nose off to spite your face

SheWoreYellow · 22/03/2022 15:12

Have you got any other interest? Second viewing requests?

Nicholethejewellery · 22/03/2022 15:28

If you're confident you'll get more than the asking price then there's nothing to consider here, give them a flat no.

I'd deal with arseholes if it meant I'd get a lot more money, but arseholes tend not to be the type of people to make large bids.

AllOfUsAreDead · 22/03/2022 15:41

So they are liars, pushy assholes and offered below asking price?

I'd ask for a note to sent back with 'For you since you were extremely rude and pushy, add on an extra £50,000 and offer accepted'. Or however much extra you want of course.

But realistically, do not sell to them. You could send a message saying no and it's because you were rude. Might make them change but doubt it.

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