Daughter ‘forgotten’ at school

[Mishi2104]

Hi all,

So my daughter is 5 and in reception. Today on our walk home from school I asked the usual question of if she’d had a good day at school, she promptly burst in to tears and said that she was ,forgotten about’. From what I can gather with her explanation is that she was in the toilet and when she came out the classroom was empty, she said that all the children had been taken somewhere (I’m not entirely sure where as I can’t understand what my daughter is saying but I know it was somewhere outside) anyway she said that the teacher came and got her but I’m not sure how long she was there on her own for. When I picked her up from school the teacher never mentioned anything about it and I feel like I should have a least been told that it happened. I’m not annoyed that it happened, accidents happen and I understand they may not have realised she was in the toilet and I’m sure they went and got her a soon as they realised. But my daughter was very upset by what had happened and it took a while to calm her down and explain to her that it was an accident and they didn’t do it on purpose. AIBU to ask for an explanation tomorrow when I go drop her off? She’s my oldest so I’m new to all the school stuff and what not. Im not sure if it’s normal not to be told of things that happen in school and this is the first time she has come home upset as she normally loves school.

@crimsonlake

To leave a classroom with all the children the routine is to get them lined up and count them before leaving...this clearly did not happen.

Rubbish

I think it's easily done when you are herding little children. The fact that the teacher came back shows that she was doing the right thing - either she knew your dd was in the loo and popped back, or the next head count showed that someone was missing.

I wouldn't expect the teacher to talk to parents every time a pupil of that age got upset - they'd be talking to several parents after school every single day.

I expect it seemed like a very minor issue. It was a few moments only and your dd was easily comforted and seemed fine for the rest of the day. If it happened in the morning it was probably forgotten or overtaken by other events.

I would mention it to the teacher in a factual way - she was a bit upset, what should she do if it happens again.

I would check with the school but also chat to your daughter about what to do in a situation like that. This bit will get more important as she gets older and more independent but no harm in starting now. So reassure her that she was fine in her classroom and to wait there rather that wandering around trying to find them. If she really needed an adult she could got to another class and explain to the adult there what happened. This starts to give them a toolkit to deal with the unexpected.

I'd mention it to the teacher.
You are your child's advocate.
I'm not talking in the physical sense but both of my dc were essentially 'forgotten' by their teachers throughout school.
Quiet, meeting their target, polite kids often are and I'm not sure the teacher would have missed them if they'd sat in the toilet all day.
Not saying this is the case in your situation but I'd definitely speak up about how upset your dd was.