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AIBU?

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Posting on social media...aibu?

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louiseonamoon · 21/03/2022 10:11

Up until a year ago my anxiety was really bad.
I couldn't work,leave the house alone.
I had lost 2 people really close to me (mum and gran) and my mental health wasn't the best.
I received counselling and have gone back to work part time.
I work 26 hours a week and at the minute it's what I can cope with without being overwhelmed.
I receive universal credit which helps me with my part time hours.
I've met a new partner 7 months ago and we are happy and have a lovely life.
He's made me want to be here again.
The weekend gone he took me to Edinburgh for two nights.
Stupidly I posted a pic outside the castle of us and tagged us in Edinburgh.

My friends brother (who is a alcoholic and probably was drunk ) wrote on my Facebook picture "you do well for scum on benefits "

I didn't notice till a few hours later and everyone will have seen by then.
I commented back that I work and thanks for taking such a interest in my life.
It ruined my trip.
I felt like scum
I haven't gone in to work today because I have been having really bad anxiety since we got back.
I feel like I shouldn't of posted that picture
I feel everyone will be judging me now
I just feel disgusting
Was I wrong to do it?

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Original poster

louiseonamoon · 21/03/2022 11:04

Thanks everyone for being nice.
I've honestly thought about it constantly since Saturday and had such a awful feeling in the pit of my stomach.

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vitahelp · 21/03/2022 11:12

Honestly, if I had seen your photo and seen his comment I really would have thought he was a bit mental and possibly some weird jealous ex. I wouldn't have put much thought into the benefits part and whether it was true or not. And I wouldn't have thought any differently of you.

moreshitandnofuckingredemption · 21/03/2022 11:45

Do not rise to it, do not respond, it is his issue, not yours, and I guarantee that everyone who saw the comment knows that too.
How horrible for you though

Maisa45 · 21/03/2022 11:47

He sounds fucking awful and is clearly jealous. Even if you were on benefits that is totally out of order. Agree with PPs - block and move on. You do not owe anyone an explanation.

sillysmiles · 21/03/2022 11:50

What an asshole - block him, Ignore him and move on. Not worth the time or space in your head.

Are yabu though to let a comment from such an asshole stop you going to work. You have clearly been working hard to get yourself into a good spot - don't give someone else the power to damage that.

incognitoforthisone · 21/03/2022 11:50

@louiseonamoon

Do you think I should put a post on Facebook explaining I work part time and my reasons why? Or just forget about it and move on?

Forget about it and move on. And block the wanker who posted the comment, obviously.

Notbeinfunnehbut · 21/03/2022 11:53

Did anyone defend you? In private if not online

Im so angry on your behalf, I’d give him both barrels what a piece of shit, alcoholism is no excuse .

Fl0w3ry · 21/03/2022 11:54

I agree with ignore him. You have done so well pushing through your anxiety, don’t let an arse like him drag you backwards. Remove him from your social media and concentrate on the people who support and congratulate you on your achievements. Don’t give him another thought.

LittleGwyneth · 21/03/2022 12:21

How horrible. Delete the comment, block him and ignore. The algorithm doesn't reward abusive language so probably very few people will even have seen it. You don't have to justify anything to anyone, you're doing your best which is all anyone can do.

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louiseonamoon · 21/03/2022 13:12

Why do you think he said it?
Maybe the alcohol ? Or thinking it anyway

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Fatgalslim · 21/03/2022 13:15

Stop overthinking it, he was an arsehole, it's done, move on. None of us know why he said it

TheMarmaladeYears · 21/03/2022 13:28

@louiseonamoon

Do you think I should put a post on Facebook explaining I work part time and my reasons why? Or just forget about it and move on?

Absolutely not! This could open up all sorts of undeserved nastiness. Block friend's horrible brother and say nothing. It's not anyone else's business. Facebook can be a dreadfully depressing place and I'd have a quiet think about whether you find it helps to be on there at all. I hope you had a great weekend though. Don't let one arsehole spoil it for you.

Russell19 · 21/03/2022 14:11

The reason he posted it is jealousy

sillysmiles · 21/03/2022 15:45

@louiseonamoon

Why do you think he said it? Maybe the alcohol ? Or thinking it anyway

He said it because he could and in reality you will never know his true motivations - so why even think about it?

He is an asshole
He could be jealous
He tries to punchdown
He doesn't like that you are getting you're shit together
He doesn't like that you are in a relationship
He feels inadequate
He thought it was funny
He is an asshole

There are many potential "reasons" but why even entertain them?

iklboo · 21/03/2022 15:48

If I'd read that I'd have thought he was scum, not you. A jealous, bitter twat. Try not to give him another second's thought .

gamerchick · 21/03/2022 15:48

Just block him. He's not important.

Onlyforcake · 21/03/2022 15:54

Honestly, anyone who read that comment would have thought (rightly) he is a complete arsehole, with no understanding of what your life is. It is GREAT that you had a lovely break, that you've got a positive relationship in your life and that you're working on yourself, and doing well. You are doing the right things, taking steps with your life and actively improving your health. Best wishes, try to get him out of your head, definitely block the fuck out of him. He can fuck off to the far side of fuck.

TooBigForMyBoots · 21/03/2022 15:57

He said it because he's a dick.

cluelesscountrycnut · 21/03/2022 16:03

He's vile! Nobody reading that would think bad on you except maybe wondering how the hell you know someone as dickish as that. I hope you enjoyed Edinburgh 🙂

Joinedforthis22 · 21/03/2022 16:04

Why do you think he said it?
Maybe the alcohol ? Or thinking it anyway

He's either jealous or a nasty piece of work who gets sick pleasure from trying to tear someone else down, either way you don't need pricks like that in your life, block him.

EishetChayil · 21/03/2022 16:08

What a dick that guy is. You don't owe anyone an explanation for anything!

zingally · 21/03/2022 16:15

He's a cunt, pure and simple! You've done absolutely nothing wrong.

Delete the comment and block him on absolutely everything. He doesn't deserve a single moment of your time, or your thoughts.

1forAll74 · 21/03/2022 16:26

Just forget about this, you should know there are thousands of nasty people out there, who trowel through social media things, just to make nasty comments to people.., so don't even reply to this warped jerk.

Clarabe1 · 21/03/2022 16:28

He is just a bullying bastard. It reflects on him - not you. Anyone who read that comment would be thinking he is a prize shithouse. Delete him and forget him.

MardyOldGoth · 21/03/2022 16:46

@louiseonamoon

Why do you think he said it? Maybe the alcohol ? Or thinking it anyway

Because weak people make themselves feel better by trying to tear others down.

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