Mother’s Day dinner out

[Itstheprinciple123]

My husband is working Mother’s Day but doesn’t start until 2pm. He asked if I wanted to go out for dinner … me him and out little boy, I said oh that would be lovely. He asked me where I wanted to go, I replied I don’t mind anywhere will do, it doesn’t have to be particularly fancy. So I asked him today if he had booked anywhere, his reply “ I was going to but it’s really expensive”. So I admit money is a little tight at the moment so I kind of get where he’s coming from and as I say I didn’t want Anywhere fancy, a local pub grub meal would have done. But this is what’s made me sad, he’s just been to Cheltenham with his dad for his birthday so the ticket was a gift, but he’s paid for his part of the hotel stay, beer, food, fuel, betting and the rest that comes with a day out and over night stay. He’s also booked a darts and golf weekend with the boys next month for himself. So that’s well over £500 -£600 for his two events. And he can’t even take me for a slap up dinner. All our finances are split 50/50, all in a shared bank. So money has never ever come between us. Ever.

But I’m just a little deflated right now. AIBU to think a Mother’s Day dinner out isn’t too much to ask for?

So you’re paying for his days out too. You might want to rethink that.

@GeneLovesJezebel

So you’re paying for his days out too. You might want to rethink that.

Yeah this

Plus he’s selfish, and mean

Are you paying for his days out? I would advise having separate savings.

I think you should address it with him but I also don't like how Mother's Day has the power to upset women who don't feel valued enough on one day which has been hyped up by the hospitality and retail industry.

If money is tight can't you get a takeaway and he does the washing up?

Ask him if he's cancelling his weekend away if moneys tight. It's fine if you can afford it but if he's using it as an excuse not to do a family thing that he's suggested he needs to readdress his spending habits.

His breakfast, lunch and dinner when he's golfing will cost more than a Mother's Day lunch, especially as a lot of places do special offers on set menus.

If he is at work at 2 you are going to be pushed for time. I also find Mother’s Day is over priced and poor value for money. However, I would expect him to cook or take you out for a lovely breakfast/brunch. I would want the same amount of money towards a weekend away too-I just wouldn’t spend it on mother’s day.

Yanbu, that's shit.

He has pripeitiswe spending on himself and his friends but when it's a much smaller amount on you, there suddenly isnt enough money.

If there genuinely isn't enough money that means he has also spent your half of the spending money in the joint account on himself.

Can you leave your son with him and book a posh weekend away with a friend somewhere with lovely meals out or something

A nice brunch or even coffee and cake in the morning would be nice..wouldn't it ?
Little farm shop or tea room ?

As for the rest....I think you need to talk about that separately.

I hope you get to enjoy something special

Not to sound mean, but money can't be THAT tight if he's willing to splurge £500-£600 on weekends for himself. You said you didn't want anything fancy, but then say he 'can't take you for a slap up dinner'. Just tell him you thought he'd make a little bit more of an effort for you on Mother's day, men can be quite simplistic sometimes and need telling, rather then going round the houses.

Choose The Most Expensive place. If he complains remind him of his spending.
When my exh was spend - happy I started taking the same cash out for myself. When he noticed I pointed out his spending...
Exh
. Ex.

It doesn’t matter that lunch is overpriced on Mothering Sunday. You’ve said that’s what you want, so either the family pot can cover that and his weekends away or both have to be taken down a notch.

FWIW we’re taking MIL out for an over-priced lunch on Mothering Sunday as it also happens to be her 70th birthday and that’s what she wants to do.

Just book a table and go, bollocks to what he thinks is an acceptable price.

You are low down on his priority list and I question why you would accept that. He could take you to pizza hut which is cheap enough for 3. At this rate you probably won't be getting a present. I'd make it clear that you are feeling underappreciated and that stops now, you aren't being unreasonable to expect him to make some effort on your child's behalf.

Some (most?) men are like dogs.
Mostly want to please and happiest when given clear direction.

You have to say in words if one syllable what you want, what is acceptable and what is not.

And always scratching their balls