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AIBU ... to spend my birthday by myself?

11 replies

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 20/03/2022 22:51

Well why break the habit of the last two years, which have seen me as Billie No Mates because of lockdown. I don't like big parties and ALL my friends together at the same time. I have different segments, I suppose, of friends. Not that I don't want them to meet, nothing like that, it is just logistically not really possible and I don't really want that. It's just a normal birthday, I shall be 43.

I did say to one group of girlfriends that I fancied going to a particular restaurant on my birthday (some months ago now) and brought this up yesterday, but one is already doing something that day, another was up for it, the third said "I'll let you know" (which drives me nuts).

As it's on a Sunday I can imagine if I ask others, it will be family stuff going on. So I decided I want to do something all by myself. I know I won't flake on myself, I can do exactly what I want, don't have to compromise or answer to anyone or come home early because someone else has something to do or walk the dogs or sort the kids out or something.

So I'd like some ideas please. It is a Sunday, so I can't do any beauty-related pamper stuff and I don't want to stay home alone so it's got to be going out.

Also what do you think about the idea? Do you reckon I am weird? I feel quite liberated actually, and can always have early or late birthday drinks with friends on a day that isn't my birthday and won't feel so loaded. In fact I might do it every year.

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mowly77 · 20/03/2022 22:56

Do it. Not weird at all. Celebrate yourself in all your glory! Do something you’ll really like - a museum, a gallery, a nice walk in a beautiful place, an afternoon cinema matinee-? and go that restaurant you fancy, take a book and have a lovely meal on your own. I love my own company & did these things all the time pre-child. Miss those days! HBD in advance.

m00rfarm · 20/03/2022 23:00

Theatre trip?

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 20/03/2022 23:01

Good for you! I would go to the theatre and a nice meal. Enjoy, whatever you do.

zigzag56445 · 20/03/2022 23:15

Do whatever you want. My friend has what she calls 'rolling birthday celebrations' , where she meets her many and varied friends in small groups over a week or two. She's very social anyway!
Your birthday, it's up to you!

CheshireDing · 20/03/2022 23:27

Sounds great to me ! I am not really fussed about celebrating my own birthdays and do like my own company a lot 🤷‍♀️😀

Theatre , like others have said, or cinema? Then dinner out (could be fancy restaurant, could be Wetherspoons, whatever YOU would like).

Underfrighter · 20/03/2022 23:28

I went out a cycle, watched some shit tv, ate cake for breakfast, went out for lunch on my own with a good book for my birthday one year (get our birthday day off work as a random holiday), was amazing

HerMajestyTheQuern · 20/03/2022 23:34

It’s my 43rd birthday today! Happy birthday to you in advance. I’ve booked tomorrow off on my own, I’m off to browse some new cookery books, brunch and the cinema, not done any of this since pre-COVID. So looking forward to it.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 20/03/2022 23:41

@HerMajestyTheQuern Happy birthday. I hope you have a great day, what you have planned sounds perfect.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 20/03/2022 23:41

@HerMajestyTheQuern

It’s my 43rd birthday today! Happy birthday to you in advance. I’ve booked tomorrow off on my own, I’m off to browse some new cookery books, brunch and the cinema, not done any of this since pre-COVID. So looking forward to it.
Have a great birthday!
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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 21/03/2022 07:46

Thanks for suggestions so far. I'm really liking the idea now!

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BeaLola · 21/03/2022 08:28

Do it - I have done this in the past.

As to what to do - depends on finances ,what you would love etc

Ideas: theatre , back to back films at cinema , drive out and lovely brunch or lunch at pub ,cafe or restaurant , visit historic place you've always wanted to go to, book in for a gel manicure and pedicure or end the day with a relaxing massage,do a one day workshop - like at a cookery school / pop-up,floristry taster, calligraphy, museum or art gallery or a day at home with all the lovely food you like and a box set , Netflix etc and chill

Whatever you do have a very lovely day

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