So, wise MNetters, I know no one can 'fix' this but maybe some advice if you can be arsed to read all of the info below!...
DC18months has always been a difficult and fussy eater, ever since weaning times. We started out with combo weaning (purées and baby led) but during weaning it was traumatic for me and DD as it came to light she had several difficult and serious allergies. She also had a high gag reflex which meant that as time progressed, coupled with her allergies, where other babies got comfy with eating she was restricted and wary still and would easily choke.
Fast forward to 18months and she still is funny with textures she doesn't like or trust, and despite us trying to give different textures and foods each day between 6-12 months to 'train' her out of it and expose her to different foods , we have no fallen into a rut since 12 months in a bid to get her to eat enough and also since starting nursery which was a rocky ride due to adjusting to food and several allergic responses as we discovered new allergies!
We tried to all eat as a family to encourage variety and habits (lasted about 8months) but stopped that as it didn't seem to have a positive impact and it eventually led to me and DH having a very restricted diet and since I'm trying to lose weight I can't now be eating calories that I don't enjoy.
So, her daily food:
B: Weetabix Mon to Fri, weekend = toast or weetabix
D: Pasta (made with a homemade hidden veggie sauce), soup (homemade, often have 2/3 types ready in freezer for her) and toast, jacket potato with cheese and cream cheese
T: Jacket potato with cheese and cream cheese, pasta and very rarely she will tolerate homemade mince ragu with hidden veg but ONLY if I blend it to a fine mince texture
Snacks: Will only eat raspberrries, ripe pears and occasionally a bite of peach and nectarine
Yoghurt (plenty of)
Cheese (plenty of! It's her fave)
Custard
She also has sweet snacks like biscuits but I try to limit these to one at a weekend as I know my parents will give her biscuits (as well as other more healthy food) when they have her twice a week
Nursery are veggie based so she does have veggie things there but I'm not convinced she eats a lot as she's ravenous when she gets home
Drinks; only has water, breastfeed in morning, and milk for nap and bed time not in a bottle though
Things I have tried but have failed (tried them repeatedly and for an extended period of time with no luck, had to stop as she refused to eat them point blank and would make herself sick with upset) :
Porridge w/fruit compotes homemade
Fish pie
Chicken pie
Meat and veg stew
Pancakes
Wedges
Various veg (will only eat if hidden in a smooth sauce or soup)
Various fruit (no luck)
PLEASE could I have constructive advice and apologies if stuff comes out that makes it seem like a drip feed, not my intention, it's just not a simple toddler case due to allergies and gag reflex etc