Last week I was going through a really stressful time. Generally me and my boyfriend have a great relationship I became really stressed and was beginning to take it out on my DP, quite often bringing the mood down. DP became upset eventually and told me he needed space and time to think about what he wanted.
Obviously I was heartbroken. I cried to my housemate, thinking it was the end. She was there for me and gave me advice but was very dramatic, constantly belittling my boyfriend and saying how toxic he was being, that is was “good to have her girl back” etc etc.
My boyfriend made contact a few days ago and apologised that he became overwhelmed, and we spoke for ages about ways I’m going to help myself, as well as things to help us improve, he was so so so supportive. I was obviously heartbroken that I thought we were going to end so we agreed to take things slow going forward and make some changes - we were both happy with this agreement.
We begun this weekend with a short night in at my empty flat - we had a good laugh and agreed to see each other again next week.
My flat mate came in and saw him leave the next morning - she was absolutely livid at me. Saying how she was so pissed off at me, how I obviously took none of her advice on board, that I have no idea what’s best for me, and that she doesn’t want to see me get hurt and she’s really pissed off.
I explained to her that I took everyone’s advice, I haven’t dismissed anything, and that we’re taking things really slow.
She came back with a sarcastic “yeah ending up in your bed, real slow”. Since then it’s been non stop digs about how I’m chucking her advice in her face, how she just wants to help and that it’d be weird if she wasn’t being ‘supportive’.
I decided to go stay at my parents for the weekend as I felt a bit overwhelmed.
Tonight she has bombarded me with texts about how pissed off she is, how she believed me when I said I was taking things slow. She also seems quite obsessive with me as she said that “I thought I got my girl back again and things are just going as they were again” (aka me not being available for her 24/7). She also keeps saying about how she’s been through it before and can’t bare to see me go through it (bearing in mind her ex was a manipulative toxic abuser and mine is not! Our circumstances are different).
I’ve asked her to give me a break but she just won’t, she keeps banging on about how pissed off she is, how me not replying to her texts instantly is “this is the treatment she gets for being there for me”, and that I don’t value her friendship.
I just feel like I’ve listened to her advice but she doesn’t need to keep telling me 5 times a day.
All my other friends have given their advice about being careful going forward, and it’s exactly what I have done. My parents and my friends have been so supportive of me, but my housemate. Am I being unreasonable here??