Exhausted constantly

[Smarshian]

I am in bed before 10pm on a Saturday as I am super exhausted and need the rest, is everyone the same?
I have 2DC 3 & 5. Work 4 days, 2 long days and 2 short days so I can collect DC from school/nursery. On Fridays I have a day off and the kids are at school/nursery term time. I use this day for cleaning and food prep usually.
I play netball 1/2 evenings a week and run 3/4 times a week (I am marathon training so this can be quite intense).
Today I woke up at 7.30 (it was my ‘lie in’), usually I am up at 6/6.30. I took the DS swimming whilst DH took DD to football, 9-10, then came back took both kids to a party 11-1, then had a play date with a neighbour this afternoon.
If we don’t get the kids out they are a nightmare in the house squabbling and whinging so we are always doing stuff but I just want a chilled weekend sometimes! Tomorrow we plan on a NT place, but it’s all the faff of getting ready, packing lunch etc etc etc, the thought of it is just draining me!
Does everyone’s week look like this?
YABU - it’s normal!
YANBU - it’s too much (tell me how to fix it!)

I'm in a similar position to you, only half rather than full marathon training. I started to feel exhausted a few weeks ago. Blood tests have picked up a couple of surprising things which I'm being treated for now, so I'd advise getting checked out. As it stands I've had to give up running (literally no energy) and have had some weeks off work. Scale back and get checked out to be sure - don't do what I did and assume it's normal given everything you're doing, it's best to be sure.

Is it possible to activate the dc simultaneously? Kill 2 birds with one stone so to speak?

At this stage of life it is one thing after another to do.

You do a lot of sport on top of normal life, which is great but then not surprising that you are exhausted. You are simply not prioritising having a rest.

Three year old are pretty relentless energy wise. Honestly, I know some incredibly fit and sporty people and none, male or female, would have marathon trained with a three year old. They all waited a year or two until the child was older.

So given what you are trying to do, with both parents doing sporting stuff and trying to have a social life.

I think it would be very surprising if you felt like anything other than a treadmill.

As you say you get nails done every three weeks, again many many people wouldn't have the downtime to fit that in.

I think you just need to accept this is the life stage you are at, and maybe ask him to play golf 3/4 weeks so he's around for parties etc

1. Is running a marathon really necessary right now? A bit of sport is good but intensive training like that can be draining and depleting.

2.You need a cleaner more than every other week.

1. If DH isn’t taking half the mental load, ensure he does. Put him in charge of bill paying for a start.

1. Golf all day is too much on a weekend when you’re not getting a break. He’ll have plenty of time for long golf jollies when the kids are older. Right now he’s needed at the ranch.

My life was like yours many years ago except no running.Too much pressure,always on the go.You are simply doing too much, something has to give.Yes ,do the running and the netball but do you have to run a marathon when your children are so young putting more pressure on your self.There is plenty of time for that.Children are hard work but they must learn to play at home,chill time.I have made picnic more simple by using a French stick,soft cheese so no butter and cucumber sticks,carrots and a few baby toms.Fruit maybe a chocolate wafer type thing.Water and a flask.Takes minutes to put together.Up the cleaner to very week worth every penny.Good luck you are doing so well.

Totally understand why you are knackered.

My life is similar to what you describe except I don't do any of the extra activities like running and netball.

I am so exhausted with just doing the other things. Don't know how you are managing to find the energy to do all of the extras. Fair play to you. So I think it's normal that you are so exhausted.