To get into a relationship so soon

[Kaylasmum49]

I left a 20 year abusive relationship 9 months ago with my dcs aged 19 and 15. My 15 year old ds is awaiting his autism diagnosis and has severe anxiety regarding social communication. I joined a dating site 3 months ago, mainly as a distraction and out of curiosity. The majority of the men were absolute creeps but then one guy started talking to me and he was completely different. Just nice normal conversation, no sleaze.

I like him but I don’t want to get into a relationship of any kind, friendship would be nice. He totally understands that and is happy to be friends. We live about 30 miles apart so we wouldn’t really meet much but I think it is far too soon to introduce him to my 15 year old ds. I just feel so mixed up and think I should stop talking to this guy.

Any thoughts?

If you are just going to be friends (and the other person is happy with that) then I am not really sure why you would ever need to introduce him to your son? You said yourself that you wouldn't be meeting up often anyway so just go out somewhere when you meet, he doesn't have to come to your house.

I wouldn't introduce him to your son yet. If you like him just see him as a friend. If he lives 30 miles away and you both drive then you could meet half way for a drink or a nice meal.

Just take it very slowly and look for red flags so you don't end up in an abusive relationship again. Have you actually met him yet or just talked on the phone?