To ask if this is normal re: (older) baby sleep

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my 11 month old is an awful sleeper. she wakes through the night but also goes to sleep ridiculously late. as in past midnight. sometimes i can get her down at 10pm ish but then she will wake up an hour later and be awake til 1am bouncing off the walls. i also have to put her in my bed otherwise she’s bolt upright again within minutes.

she thrashes about throws her arms everywhere etc etc totally fighting sleep. i’m so tired of it. i want my own bed back and i want time with my partner to just sit and chill while she is in bed. what on earth do i do? she’s breastfed but i decided yesterday to start weaning her off it as not sure if this is the cause?

You must be shattered. Move her to her own room / bed. Definitely wean from the breast at night as she doesn't need milk overnight now, maybe offer water in a cup if she wakes up.

Can your partner take over at night for a few nights so that it's a bit easier for you so she doesn't want the breast?

What's her day sleep like? At 11 months I would expect she'd be having 2 naps a day, for about 1.5h each (give or take 30 minutes). What time are her naps?

Night weaning might help her sleep, but it also might remove your easiest way to get her back to sleep. If you want to stop bf overnight then do, but don't do it just for her sleep!

yes what's her daytime sleep like? Daytime sleep's weird, not enough or too much can both make night times more difficult.

She could be overtired and therefore bouncing around on cortisol? Maybe an earlier bedtime and definitely try different daytime sleep patterns

Agree, sounds overtired. I would work on day time naps and then an earlier bed time.
When mine was that age I followed a sleep schedule.
Awake at 7, first nap 9.30 till 10, second nape 12.30 till 2.30 then bed at 6.30. I stuck to this religiously for a few weeks and then it sort of just worked itself out.
She's 19months now and still if she doesn't have good day naps she's awful through the night

Agree, look at the daytimes.. what’s her daytime food like? Is she eating enough at the right times?

Do you have a bedtime routine?

Daytime naps definitely! My son was the same, he would wake in the night for 2-3 hours or more and then get up for the day anywhere between 3.30-5am and be shattered by 9am! I spent ages trying different things, the one that worked for us was the huckleberry app.

I paid for the premium version for a month so I could get the sweet spot indicator, logged every wake/sleep and nap for a week or so and then it gave me a routine to work to as to when he should nap based on what time I wanted him to go to bed/get up. He's 2 next month and only naps once in the day now but he has anywhere between 1.5-2.5 hours around lunchtime, we generally do lunch before his nap unless he's too tired. He wakes between 6-6.30 now and goes to bed between 7-7.30pm. Definitely look at naps in the day though, Charlie was so much better when he napped well in the day!

Oh and sleepy fish on YouTube! Sends my lad to sleep in 5 mins, we now use it before his nap in the day when we have a cuddle!

As everyone else has said, you need to look at the daytime routine.
At that age I think my son was up at about 6/6.30am
Napped at 9am for an hr then another nap at 1pm for 1.5-2hrs.
Bedtime 7pm.

Plenty of outdoor time to burn off energy, no t.v.