Help me stop putting my foot in it

[travelingtornadoes]

I have a habit of saying the wrong thing and upsetting or irritating people then feeling like I'm an awful person and no one likes me. Even if im told not to worry about what I've said, i overthink about it forever. For example asking about babies to someone who had miscarried (I didn't know) commenting about something where the other person clearly doesn't agree with me, or I say something about another person and it comes across as unkind when I don't mean it to be.
I am at the point where I'd rather not see or speak to anyone just I'm case I do the wrong thing because it's easier. How do I stop putting my foot in it?

Apologies for the unnecessary voting option

Everyone does this to some extent. We all slip up. The fact that you notice and care about
it slows you’re a decent person but I think you’re allowing it to feed anxiety.

When confident people make blunders, they often don’t notice because they’re not on constant high alert in the same way as people who experience social anxiety.

Worrying about saying the wrong thing can make it worse because you can overthink conversations and misinterpret people’s reactions to you.

I bet you’re nowhere near as bad as you think you are at saying the wrong thing. It’s easy to fall into the trap of scrutinising conversations and looking for ways in which you feel like you screwed up, when in reality you didn’t and the other person didn’t even notice!

I do this. I think I'm probably adhd/autistic.
I've even managed to do it on Mumsnet via text.