Trying to conceive

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Need some advice please. Me and my partner have been ttc for nearly 2 years, currently going through fertility process now which is very emotional and stressful. My twin has a child and is a really good mom. Her focus is 100% her child which is great but am I being a bit selfish in thinking i wish she would take some time out for me? We used to be so close but now shes a mom it's we're in different circles. I've suggesting a few times meeting up without the toddler but shes declined saying their saving up for holidays and days out etc (i have met up with her plenty of times with little one and with our mutual friends and their children) but sometimes i feel so overwhelmed with ttc i need some time out and not always have the conversation steered towards children. My partner has a teenager so he doesn't quite understand what I'm going through. Am i being selfish being annoyed she doesn't think of how I'm feeling in all this? She knows my situation. I would love some advice x

Aww OP, you are not being unreasonable. Your feelings are totally natural. Of course you want some child free time with your twin. It must be so stressful and painful having everything oriented around the kids, when you are struggling yourself with fertility issues. It might be logistically challenging for your twin, but she should be considering your feelings and trying to carve out some child free space, whenever that may be. Depending on her circumstances she should be able to manage something.
Have you talked to her about how you feel? She may just have no idea/ understanding if she’s never been through similar herself xx

Thanks @bizawit. She knows its been really difficult for me and logistically I know she could free up the time and money wise we don't have to do anything expensive at all. Maybe you're right and she doesn't understand what it's like as shes not been in that situation. I'm reluctant to mention anything though because then i feel it will only happen out of pity or because I've had a moan about it. Catch 22!! I'm glad you've said I'm not being unreasonable, it makes me think I'm not going completely crazy and being too selfish. Xx