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Today is my cancerversary

22 replies

user7655767 · 17/03/2022 12:29

Posting in here for traffic
Two years today I was diagnosed with cancer and I’m feeling so emotional.
Sat in work struggling to get through the day.
Although the cancer is gone the anniversary’s are so hard 😕

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Delatron · 17/03/2022 12:33

Ah I know how you feel. I was 10 years recently and it does get easier. But still don’t feel like celebrating. I still have a little cry on the anniversary each year as it was such an awful and traumatic time. I think about it less though. It will get better for you each year too.

I think it’s fine and completely normal to be emotional. Look after yourself today 💐

Bakedbeanhead · 17/03/2022 12:35

Oh bless you, it must be so hard for you. Try to remember that it is just a day like any other. Try to focus on how far you have come
Hopefully the sun is shining where you are, and the Daffodils are out.
Sending you lots of hugs and positive vibes ❤️

UnCivil · 17/03/2022 12:36

Very best wishes Op. I truly admire anyone who has to deal with a potentially life limiting condition and who manages to get on with their lives. Thankfully you are now cancer free but as someone who deals with health anxiety I honestly do admire people like you as I don’t believe I would cope.

Maybe this isn’t the most uplifting message you could be reading today - sorry. But from this internet strangers perspective you are allowed to feel the struggle today.

Lambanddog · 17/03/2022 12:36
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maeveiscurious · 17/03/2022 12:38

Yeas mine was a year in February and Monday was when they discharged me from hospital last year, it's a hard thing to reflect on. I understand Thanks

SprinklesMcDoodles · 17/03/2022 12:59
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Flatandhappy · 17/03/2022 13:04

It was mine last week, three years, all done and dusted BUT the same day I found a swelling under my other arm, I am terrified.

user7655767 · 17/03/2022 18:38

Thank you all for the messages I manages to survive the day at work although there were a few tears.

@Flatandhappy I hope everything goes ok for you 💐

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animalcrossingfan2021 · 17/03/2022 19:59

I am also nearly two years since diagnosis. Last year took me by surprise how emotional I felt.
I hope it gets a little easier as the years pass Flowers

YourMateMima · 17/03/2022 20:12

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SouperNoodle · 17/03/2022 20:13

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Winewednesday · 17/03/2022 20:15

I'm nearly at my first year of diagnosis, it's ok to feel emotional you've been through alot. Tomorrow is a new day x

user1471453601 · 17/03/2022 20:16

It really does get easier. You've been through the worst, now get on with enjoying your life.

After my second bout with cancer, I decided that that was the time to stop marching to the beat of others drums. Id done school , work and had I
was old enough to retired, and my child was a settled and happy. So I did. I could and did, do just what I wanted, as long as I didn't hurt anyone or anything.

Enjoy what you've been given, another chance at life. Good luck. And remember, enjoy

WTF475878237NC · 17/03/2022 20:21

I hope you're taking care of yourself this evening. These feelings will pass. Next year they may be a bit less intense too. It's understandable you have had a rough day.

InsideTheNet · 17/03/2022 20:22

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Oh Op, I am so sorry to read this, it must be incredibly hard. Today is nearly over, I hope tomorrow will be better x
I was diagnosed in January so my cancer journey has just begun 😢

user7655767 · 17/03/2022 21:01

@WTF475878237NC

I hope you're taking care of yourself this evening. These feelings will pass. Next year they may be a bit less intense too. It's understandable you have had a rough day.
@WTF475878237NC

This year feels harder than last year 😢
I thought I would be better this year, I can remember the day like it was yesterday and the first few days after and how hard they were.

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TwoBigNoisyBoys · 17/03/2022 21:34

Ah OP…I can completely understand what a difficult day this is for you. I was diagnosed last October, and I haven’t yet finished my chemo. Then I have surgery, radiotherapy and oral chemo to go; I think I’ll still be receiving treatment on my first anniversary. Already I’m aware that people presume once your treatment is finished, and you’re (hopefully) cancer free then that’s it! You’re recovered, better, back to normal. I genuinely think unless other have been through it, that have no idea of the mental strain, which unfortunately is not treated with chemo or radiotherapy! I too can remember that day with moment by moment clarity, and the dreadful days that followed. I get it, completely.

I hope today has passed peacefully for you, if nothing else, and I hope tomorrow is easier for you xx

Amybelle88 · 17/03/2022 21:46

I've been there, too and having a struggle myself at the moment so I totally understand how you feel.

I'm 5 years post pancreatic cancer diagnosis and all done and dusted. Every year I think I'm going to be fine and every year I take an emotional tumble.

All I can say is, whilst it still upsets me every year and I relive a lot of it, it does get easier, too.

I hope you're ok and the day passed fast for you xx

HikingforScenery · 17/03/2022 21:50

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Confusedmeanderings · 18/03/2022 00:08

Flowers I get how hard this must be. I was diagnosed at the End of November, had surgery in December and going through chemo now. Radiotherapy and hormone treatment to follow. It does change your life and your outlook.

fuckwhatshouldido · 18/03/2022 00:24

Aww OP, YANBU and I’m sorry it was such a hard day for you. I’ve not gone through it directly but my 3yo was diagnosed with leukaemia in October and it’s funny the things that knock you that you don’t expect. And even though she’s doing really well and is highly likely to ultimately be fine, I can already tell that it won’t be as simple as ‘finish treatment, skip off into the sunset, get over it, carry on as before’. Things aren’t the same as before. Be kind to yourself and I hope you feel better soon 💐

maeveiscurious · 18/03/2022 20:47

@fuckwhatshouldido

Aww OP, YANBU and I’m sorry it was such a hard day for you. I’ve not gone through it directly but my 3yo was diagnosed with leukaemia in October and it’s funny the things that knock you that you don’t expect. And even though she’s doing really well and is highly likely to ultimately be fine, I can already tell that it won’t be as simple as ‘finish treatment, skip off into the sunset, get over it, carry on as before’. Things aren’t the same as before. Be kind to yourself and I hope you feel better soon 💐
I am sorry to hear this, it's a tough journey.

I think it's the realisation is that bad things can happen.

I hope your dc is okay

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