Fed up and unhappy with my life

[Alwayscold2]

Don’t even know where to start and not sure why I am posting but just need some advice/help. I’m massively unhappy with where I am in life, I’m mid 20s, a lone parent for a 2.5 year old. I’ve lost contact with all my friends. I used to be very social but all that has gone now and my life seems to be heading no where. Every day is the same, like clock work. I have not dated for years, incredibly lonely, I’d love to meet someone but not sure it will ever happen. I’m Currently out of work which I dislike but I am feeling so overwhelmed by everything. I tell myself everyday I need too make a plan of what to do moving forward but nothing works. I just don’t know what to do to get my life back on track/improve my social life/meet new people/find work. I’m incredibly depressed/anxious too and have been for a long time, currently feeling very drab about my appearance. I want to lose 2/3 stone but struggling with that too, never have chance to have my hair done/nails done or anything to make me feel better about myself. I hardly sleep, just feel very much stuck in a rut and see no way out of it

@Alwayscold2 Does your DC go to nursery?

Your current situation is just a phase in your life. Embrace having a young child and do thing that suit your current lifestyle, kids clubs etc. There is plenty of time to come to date and do other things again, believe me :-)

It probably is just a phase - but you can take advantage of the time you have. You don’t mention what your previous job was - can you say whether you feel you’d reached the position you aspired to? Probably not, as you’re so young!

There are probably qualifications you could be working towards. Even if not formally, you could be following a course on FutureLearn or Coursera. They’re free and can help you to work out what you’d like to focus on. Better qualifications should lead to better job security, if not now, in the future.

And studying will bring you into contact with new people - leading to new friendships, more activity, possible cures for loneliness …

Why not browse some of the threads on the Mature Study and Retraining board, here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mature_students

for inspiration?

What's your relationship with your parents like? Could you confide in them how you are feeling?