Dp and i have been together about 5 years. For lots of reason im not feeling my best, some ill health and issues with family. Dp who is very lovely and thoughtful, supportive and handsome, as well as someone other women have always commented on as being attractive, which is nice and never been a problem for me - its nice to be with someone attractive and ive never seen him flirty or sleezey.
Having gone from a male only environment, hes moved across to a new job in a very female environment and I've just started to feel really uncomfortable with how hes reacting to what is quite clearly a high level of female attention, who he calls mates. Hes been there 6 months. I should say he was sad before in his job and i want him to make friends on the job, i want him to feel confident and happy and i want happy, nice days for him.
What I was not expecting was WhatsApp groups, plans for nights out in different cities with his new friends, banter which from the little he's told me of is for sure is the kind of thing i would have done in early twenties at work (now early 30s,so is he) which is the age of most colleagues, ie sexual refs etc.
He was telling me today how great tiger balm was and that a really nice mate showed him how to use it and rubbed it on his temple. He told it in a kind of humble braggy way that honestly made me feel sick.
Hes usually a lovely bloke. I get that he should enjoy the heady beginning of being the minority. But this is 8 months in. I can't help feeling shit. Any advice would be welcomed. I do trust him but this is testing my patience as i feel I need to put boundaries in i shouldnt have to. and no end in sight as its long term job change.