How did you know you would be a 'good enough' mother?

[AbsentmindedWoman]

Clinging on to tenacious hope I can have a child one day, if I'm lucky/ if my body heals enough to risk pregnancy.

Sometimes though I spiral and think, what if I move mountains to have a child and end up being a terrible mother? What if I inadvertently fuck up my longed-for child?

Most people appreciate that parenthood is a mammoth responsibility, but there's no way of knowing how hard you will find it until the kid has arrived...

Perhaps the fact I'm thinking like this is an alarm bell not to do it, maybe it's only insane hormones making me want motherhood

I knew deep down I will be a good mother because my mother is amazing

Have therapy now, do the hard work and the healing before children arrive, that way you don't carry forward your own issues to the next generation.

I knew because I learnt from my wonderful mom and sisters, was an active aunt and knew I'd always have support if needed.

I didn't 'know' but I knew what a NOT good enough one was from my own and did the opposite! We all mess up sometimes but so long as your babies/children know they are loved and you can apologise when you do something wrong everything will work out❤️