To think the mums on IG are wrong

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I came off social media for a few years but made an Instagram account a few months ago.

Iv never seen people share SO much of their life and their child's, public accounts posting their children in the bath thinking a sticker covering their private parts is good enough!

And then their is the mum's that literally moan constantly about their children and how hard life is!

I think the worst iv seen is the same account constantly shaming her child for having meltdowns and tantrums when she takes her out she literally takes pictures and videos of her on the floor crying and post's them with a sentence about how horrible shes been and how she even cried with her

Is this what it has come to now, I'm so confused why parents think this is acceptable.

@PleaseBeSeated

But why are you looking at any of this? My Instagram feed consists pretty much entirely of art, artists, choreographers, and photos of falling down rural houses.

Algorithms! I've tried changing mine. I mainly have foodie things on my Instagram reels now but I still get the ones with parents posting their kids pop up. It's not like I go looking for them. I don't even follow them, they're just there

I think it's possible to share the difficult parts of parenting without shaming or embarrassing your kids. I like following mums who make it clear that their life isn't all a bed of roses, but they make it equally clear that they absolutely adore their kids.

Anything involving an adult laughing at a child's expense makes me feel physically sick.

Instagram is just a pile of ego-envy making crud.
Im surprised anyone is bored enough to sign up to be honest.

If you're getting this stuff in your feed, you must be engaging with it or something like it or you wouldn't trip the algorithm.

My instagram is either family and friends' pictures, or gardening/home dec accounts I follow, and I've never seen anything like what you describe.

@PleaseBeSeated I mainly joined to look at home accounts as we bought a renovation project, these home accounts also feel the need to post their children on occasion, I know its a home account but don't need to see their child using the bath

Also look at baby brands / shops on their so it shows me mum accounts now its actually quite annoying how IG targets us from what we look at!

YANBU. This is worse on YouTube. There are so many "family vloggers" with parents earning money directly from content with their kids in. Poor kids with their lives being plastered over the internet. I've heard a few of them say "they want and choose to be in the videos" as if a 5 year old is can give informed consent. I feel like these sort of things will end up being regulated, like child actors in movies and films. It's frightening how free for all unregulated it is. Old laws don't account for modern exploitation like this.

I think personally it can have it's conviences. All of my family is abroad. I don't have kids yet but posting bigger and smaller life events or what is going on in my life on Facebook or Instagram allows in a way especially extended family to keep each other in the loop without being dragged into a full on 30 minute conversation etc if I had kids I probably will post at least some pictures on there so that even my father's cousins or my mother's cousins or even siblings will be able to see some parts of them growing up if they are interested to see how they are doing

@sweetbambi

I think personally it can have it's conviences. All of my family is abroad. I don't have kids yet but posting bigger and smaller life events or what is going on in my life on Facebook or Instagram allows in a way especially extended family to keep each other in the loop without being dragged into a full on 30 minute conversation etc if I had kids I probably will post at least some pictures on there so that even my father's cousins or my mother's cousins or even siblings will be able to see some parts of them growing up if they are interested to see how they are doing

This is different - I assume you're talking about posting on personal private accounts that only friends and family can see. OP is taking about people posting on public accounts that anyone can see.

@Whatwasthat2 I was replying not so much to op but to pp who seem to think any pictures on any social media are a no and should not be posted when kids are in it

@sweetbambi as long as its a private account and you know everyone following you then I don't see a problem with it, I still don't agree with people posting their children in the bath etc on any form of social media though.

@honeyytoast

There is a tiktok account @ riadaaraes who posts really good videos about the dangers of “sharenting”, I’m not a parent but it is still terrifying and very eye opening. Basically sharing even the most innocent photos of your child is dangerous - a German documentary showed how awful websites on the deep web (you can imagine) had taken such photos from influencers and normal parents’ accounts and uploaded/edited and commented on them in horrific ways. It really shouldn’t be underestimated. Take as many photos of your kids as you like but no need to share them publicly :(

Shame she uses the term "Child Porn" 🤢

The issue of child consent isn’t quite as simple as some say though. We make 1000 decisions on behalf of our children every day. Whether to share the odd picture on social media is simply one more. And at heart it’s a moral issue. But then so are all the others we make on kids behalf. You could equally say children can’t consent to wearing clothes made in developing world factory, visiting a friend, eating meat, taking a plane, taking part in the school concert or fundraiser, celebrating Easter and Christmas.
Of course there are privacy issues to be aware of and consider, but I think it’s a bit overblown. In most countries taking pictures of kids to share with friends/family or even for the odd advert/promotion isn’t seen as a big deal.

I think it's ridiculous myself too, I don't even have kids. My SIL has a special page for her son and her own DB's DW posts pics of her kids. I'd panic if a paedophile were to get hold of photos but I'm a bit neurotic like that.

Yanbu I hate it all. There is absolutely zero trace of my 3.5 year old online apart from private Tapestry stuff from his nursery. We think he can decide how he wants to appear online when he's older.

I took a huge step back from social media when my child was born. I have never posted photos, nor do I talk about her on open source media. I share photos with family in private WhatsApp groups.

I had a relative ask me on FB for photos, and I said, "I don't post on here but I'll WhatsApp some to you!"

I then had a different acquaintance DM me to tell me how hurtful my decision was, because I was "attacking" her parenting choices. Note I had never interacted with her or mentioned her at all. Bonkers.

@takealettermsjones oh gosh really? How sad!

@00100001 she does? Not heard her say that but ew

[quote honeyytoast]@00100001 she does? Not heard her say that but ew[/quote]
www.tiktok.com/@riadaaraes/video/7054180147359993135

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Take away the asterisks around the username

Honestly I'm convinced that in another 5-15yrs time there are going to be a disproportionate numbers of kids taking their parents to court.

Is it France that had already made it illegal?

There's a movement getting more and more legs called 'Sharenting'. It's been going a while but I think with the increase of insta accounts of parents making fun of their kids - it's really going to start to take off.

I could be wrong but..

www.humanium.org/en/childrens-rights-and-digital-technologies-childrens-privacy-in-the-age-of-social-media-the-perils-of-sharenting/

medium.com/family-matters-2/can-children-now-take-their-parents-to-court-over-sharenting-c4e1b9574709

blogs.lse.ac.uk/parenting4digitalfuture/2017/10/11/could-a-child-sue-their-parents-for-sharenting/

I used to think that Meredith Masony was really funny up until about a year or so ago. Then she just started vilifying her teenage daughter. Some of the stuff she shares and she says - it's just awful. Her DD literally has zero privacy. She does impressions and mocks her. I stopped watching her when one time she was in the cupboard talking about how she was hiding from the monster that was her DD, she just went on and on about how hideous her DD is and how she mean is. The kid was 12yrs or something at the time. Then she goes and films her actual daughter. So everyone knows who she is.
She goes on like she's the world's best mother and I'm thinking in about 10yrs time I'm pretty sure your DD is going to want absolutely nothing to do with you. She's destroying her life for the amusement of others online. She thinks she's funny doing this. Her DD is not awful, she sounds like a normal young teenager, who gives out a bit of sass, leaves her room a bit untidy and throws the odd tantrum about chores.

It's just awful.