Play us another one

[Iamisaid]

Every single day there’s yet another mother in law bashing thread. Get over it. Can’t people understand that their other half might love the woman who gave birth to them and one day they may be the dreaded mother in law.

Everyday there's many threads about many things. Some repeat often. Cheating husband's, found something suspicious, which dress, which car, holiday suggestions Yadda Yadda

Without them, Mumsnet dies.

If MIL is causing a problem to someone, they have every right to post about it

Oh i don't know. How often do we read about MILs "insisting" they are in the birth suite for a grandchild "to make it fair" and so on and so forth
Or MILs digging on their DIL for being horrible because they have a better relationship with their mum who sees the GCs more - meanwhile their own son isn't facilitatiIng contact etc etc

It is swings and roundabouts. No batshit MILs = no batshit MIL threads.

*or DIL, SIL, DH, DW etc ad infinitum

I don’t mind the posts tbf but I do worry as the mum of one DS and another on the way maybe one day I will be the dreaded mother in law having no idea what I’ve done wrong. I have thought about it more than once!

I think it's because of the disconnect we have in our lives now.

His money/my money, his family/my family, his children/my children etc. That and our increasing lack of communication skills. We are becoming more insular and less willing to compromise. Don't answer the door, don't answer the phone, text first to see if they want to talk to you, and so on. If you have a MIL/SIL/FIL problem, it's not your problem to sort out, get your husband/partner to do it.

There is never just one side to a story, but on MN we only hear the one side. Sometimes if it's obvious the poster is the problem they will post further adding increasingly bad behaviours to back up their stories. In Laws mustn't love your child too much, mustn't buy them presents, mustn't want to spend time with them, mustn't ignore them, mustn't want their own lives, the list goes on and on.

Then egged on by keyboard warriors to go low or no contact, 'call them out' or 'I wouldn't allow that' when really all that is needed is a sit down and frank discussion with both parties.

I'm not a MIL but I was a DIL and I wouldn't dream of behaving as badly as some DILs purport to on here.