I’ve been having issues for the past 7 years with homes we have lived in. We do live in a trouble area but unfortunately due to work and schools we are stuck here until all the kids have left school. We have moved house twice in this time as we have had ended up with horrendous neighbours that made our life hell through their selfish actions. The first time I actually posted here for help and everyone told me to move house asapas I was going through a mental breakdown over it.
We did move but unfortunately the previous family at the current house lied and we had a similar problem once again with a large intimidating family. We are now looking for another property but slightly further out hoping we will get something nicer but still able to travel back.
I was speaking to my aunt about it hoping for a shoulder to cry on and she was really annoyed and shouted at me saying I’m being selfish and childish to keep moving house (because neighbours are affecting my mental health) when I should ignore them. it took me aback as I’d say the common sense thing to do would be to remove yourself from a toxic situation when it affects your daily life and the walls are so thin you can even hear them pee.
It’s now made me feel very guilty that I have uprooted my children twice because IM unhappy and potentially about to do it again. Just to be clear these aren’t silly issues like not liking a neighbour or parking wars, it’s been serious each time such as harassment, name calling, damage to property, music all night, you get the picture but it’s been an unbearable 7 years for me and I can’t be a good parent when I’m unhappy in my own home and walking on eggshells.
Am I being selfish or would you do the same thing? I’m prepared to accept any comments or criticism. I have tried the complaint route but they didn’t help us either time so I’m not interested in fighting back.