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Childminder and covid

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seeyoubugaboo · 14/03/2022 15:22

My childminder has just messaged to say her DD has covid so she needs to isolate for 10 days in line with their childminder guidance so she can't have my DD! So that's me screwed at the start of my new job! This has been happening since the start of covid I get messages that they have come in contact with someone any need to isolate I honestly thought things had moved on. AIBU to be so peed off it's such a huge last minute inconvenience that is never ending or just deal with it! My DD is down to do more days at preschool as soon as spaces become available so I am doing something about it,

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Bananabutter · 14/03/2022 15:25

YABU. Do you think she’s having a barrel of laughs herself?

Hankunamatata · 14/03/2022 15:28

Massively frustrating since they have gotten rid of social distancing and masks. I thought you didnt have to do 10 days anymore as long as testing negative on day 5 and 6

MissNothing1991 · 14/03/2022 15:37

@seeyoubugaboo

My childminder has just messaged to say her DD has covid so she needs to isolate for 10 days in line with their childminder guidance so she can't have my DD! So that's me screwed at the start of my new job! This has been happening since the start of covid I get messages that they have come in contact with someone any need to isolate I honestly thought things had moved on. AIBU to be so peed off it's such a huge last minute inconvenience that is never ending or just deal with it! My DD is down to do more days at preschool as soon as spaces become available so I am doing something about it,
To be honest, I hope she bloody reads this. Her child has Covid and you're whinging because she can't mind yours? Why would you even want to send your child to a household infected with Covid to begin with? Much less the selfishness of being pissed off at her, when her child has it. I bet you didn't say so much as get well soon.

Oh, and I'm sure if she'd just took your child anyway and they then got infected, you'd be giving off that she put them at risk and shouldn't have continued having them round Hmm

sweetzy · 14/03/2022 15:39

You've already said there's childminder guidance she's following so I'm not sure what you expect her to do.

Jules912 · 14/03/2022 15:41

In this case I'd be annoyed if my childminder didn't tell me! Assuming her DD lives with her why would you even want your child to be in the same house as someone with Covid?

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 14/03/2022 15:43

She legally has to close, childminders cannot open with a positive case in their household.

Notanotherwindow · 14/03/2022 15:43

Would you rather she gave your daughter and probably you, covid?

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 14/03/2022 15:44

It’s very frustrating, and I totally understand being upset at the world, but you can’t be upset at your childminder about this. (I say this as a person on stress leave from work because my 3 DCs are having to isolate so frequently from daycare…)

For all the government wants to pretend we’re done with COVID, we can’t be done with it as long as it’s making the rounds and thousands of people are unwell enough to not go to work or school. It’s bound to be extremely disruptive because it’s so infectious. Restrictions have a giant cost, and no restrictions have a giant cost. Yippee!

parabalabalabala · 14/03/2022 15:53

Guidance has changed generally BUT I'm assuming she looks after your child in her house, so if she did take your DC, they would also be exposed to covid. Surely that would be a bad idea?

BurntO · 14/03/2022 15:59

YANBU to be frustrated but YABU to be annoyed at your childminder. She’s following advice, it can’t be convenient for her either.

Flippydip · 14/03/2022 16:14

It's really frustrating but not much you can do about it. We use a mix of childminder and nursery and the nursery is so much more reliable. On the bright side, you get a cheaper month of childcare!

FWIW if we had a new member of staff joining us and they had this issue, we'd be sympathetic. We've spent the past few years juggling illness, work from home, parents without childcare, etc. Hopefully they're understanding.

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seeyoubugaboo · 14/03/2022 16:16

My childminder is lovely I do appreciate her ad this has given me some perspective. I was just venting I'm just frustrated as I thought this was behind us now. I'm struggling at the minute and feel overwhelmed so it's more about me not coping.

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mindutopia · 14/03/2022 16:18

This is unfortunately the risk of using a childminder instead of a nusery, which has multiple staff who can fill in if one needs to take off for sickness. Fwiw, our nursery has only closed once for about 2 days due to staff being off with COVID since the start of the pandemic.

Childminders can't have a child in the setting with COVID, so presumably, she has to close as her own child has to be home and in the setting. That makes sense.

MorganKitten · 14/03/2022 16:22

You are coming across selfish and uncaring, her child has covid, if it was yours I’m sure you’d go out of your way to look after them.

glitterelf · 14/03/2022 16:27

Thankfully I'm not your childminder however put yourself in your childminders position just for one second. We are legally obliged to shut if anyone who lives in our home has covid or even if they display symptoms of covid. We do not want to have to close we do not want to have to refuse entry but covid can be devastating for some and cases are rising yet it's not being widely reported.

When we are forced to close because of covid we lose all of our pay and have no financial help as that has all stopped we are also to my knowledge the only profession that has to close.

Just today I've had to send a child home who throughout the morning displayed symptoms and whilst I'm sure the parent was miffed at first they collected then tested and 20 minutes later I'm informed of a positive case and the parent apologising profusely even though it's something they couldn't control.

Whenever there's a case I alert all parents and ask them to test I'm sure some of them think I'm crazy but it's for they're benefit as much as mine as I do not want to close I also do not want my vulnerable DH to get it.

Please be kind to your childcare provider who is no doubt as stressed and worried as you are about work and finances and a potentially poorly child to look after and the fear of any other household member testing positive increasing the time of closure.

Nonnymum · 14/03/2022 16:29

You are being very unreasonable. The childminder is quite properly following guidelines. COVID is still dangerous to some people and knowingly putting people in a position where they could spread it is irresponsible.
I am sure she is unhappy with the situation too but it's certainly not her fault

OkOkWhatsNext · 14/03/2022 16:39

This is why we moved to a nursery when my kids were small. This was way before covid. It cost more but the unreliability of one person getting ill putting all your work plans out was just happening too frequently and once we were at nursery instead that just wasn’t a problem any more. It was worth the extra cost.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 14/03/2022 16:40

it's such a huge last minute inconvenience

Christ, well let's hope she doesn't die or anything. Imagine how inconvenient that would be for you.

Lindy2 · 14/03/2022 16:51

She has to close. It's Ofsted rules. I expect she would rather have her daughter well and be able to earn her normal income too.

Let's hope none of your family inconvenience you further and catch Covid as well.

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