School lying

[senschoolhelp]

There was an incident at school last week where my son was left in a vulnerable position, teacher gave a brief account in home/school diary, when my son arrived home school transport gave me a different version of events. I spoke to the head of the school about this, she was also given 2 different stories, I 100% believe that school transport are telling the absolute truth and the school staff are covering there arses, so head advised she would talk to her staff and this won't happen again.
In the meantime head has spoken to school transport and told them they should be dampening down what parents are told well in my world this is outright telling them to lie, my son is completely non verbal and cannot tell me what's happened in his day, if it's been good or bad, if he's had a meltdown or felt he was in danger, I'm livid that the head would say this.
I've also found out today his buggy is being left on the bus it clearly states in his EHCP it should be with him at all times and this was only updated in February.
So what do I do, am I overreacting?
Who do you report this to?

I think you should get this all set out in writing and contact the school governor responsible for safeguarding (I'm assuming there was a safeguarding concern).

The EHCP is a different issue, but also put in writing that you are aware they are not following the EHCP and that they need to do so. Ask to be updated regularly about how they are delivering his provision.

Remind them that the EHCP is a legal document and needs to be adhered to.

If you no longer trust the judgement of the Headteacher, you should send a complain to the board of Governors outlining the situation. If the response from them is not satisfactory, given that your child is non verbal and needs someone to advocate for them, I would then register a complaint with Ofsted and the local council.
This may seem like fighting fire with a tsunami but if you don't do the best for your child, who will.

Thank you for your replies.
I have spoken to the school today and they have said they are dealing with the situation.
They then called again to tell me ds had completely refused all drink and food today, he basically didn't eat or drink from 7.30am when he's picked up until 4.15pm when he arrived home.
There has been ongoing issues with his eating and drinking at school but more recently he has been eating a little of what's in his lunchbox a packet of wotsits and a chocolate bar, he has also been drinking lately he will normally finish what's in his water bottle.
I'm not sure what I'm thinking but lots of things just seem a bit off at the moment, and something is upsetting ds.

If it feels wrong OP then trust it, You are your sons voice. Trust your gut, Maybe this provision is just not right for him. I would need absolute trust with my child and if its not there then maybe you need to look again to see if you could find somewhere where your son is happy and thrives.I am really sorry this is happening.

Consider calling for an early review, your spidey senses are picking something up and your trust in the school and therefore placement is being eroded

I don't know what the issue is exactly, but my son with ASD absoconded from school once. They didn't realize until a neighbor walked him back after recognising the uniform.

The school informed Ofsted themselves, reviewed all their protocols on how children were handed over between adults and how they were supervised. And how the gates were monitored during the day. I was really satisfied with the reaction even if I was angry about what happened.

You need to be sure that the school are moving heaven and earth to fix the problems. Not brushing it under a carpet.

He has literally just had a review, which was actually an early review that I called as he wasn't eating or drinking at school and there seemed to be not much input from the school.
From what I've been told today it does sound like they are dealing with the situation in school, but I can't help thinking something feels off, I'm just not sure if that is because there has been a breakdown in trust.
His normal main teacher has not been in school since half term and there has been a shuffle round of staff because of this, staff that don't know ds and clearly haven't read his EHCP, these problems were not present when his main teacher was in school.