I know I know but...

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Long time stalker never poster. For years I have commented and had thoughts but never posted but I am seriously at the end of my fucking wit. I don't normally swear but I have genuinely hit a point my extended vocabulary cannot come up with another word from the twat I live with and god that is one of the hated words but I cannot come up with anything more. Sorry that mini vent over but I am exhausted I am 45 with a 17 Yr boy and a guy who thinks he 17. He hasn't paid anymore in bills since son was born even though I earn less it was 50/50 which is fine but since mentioning everything going up gonna cost him more it's hit the fan. Can't deny a lot is my fault as have allowed him to sit on his skinny lazy arse and go to work come home go to pub get tea on table and do that every day for 10 years. He said tonight he doesn't want to be with me and I am a little relieved as my response was no problem when do you want me to leave? His response was what u mean I am leaving....I said no u have a dog and a son you have responsibilities to this house, I will transfer to you just give me a day...welllll he shit himself. Tomorrow he will deny all knowledge so I have sent him a text backing up everything he said and saying I want a partnership no a doormat and he has a choice he can go pub or stay and attempt to sort but if he goes pub I won't be here when he gets back...am I wrong I am sick of feeling like a doormat

I voted YABU, but only because I think you’re U to deliver an ultimatum… you’d hit on the right solution (leave!) and I think you should stick to it! He’s already told you he wants to split up, it doesn’t sound like you get anything positive out of your relationship with him, so why would you invite him to continue to cocklodge??

You say 'son, after years of cutting your dad slack whilst he sat on his arse. He has had the cheek to say he is considering leaving. SO, I've decided that I've had enough! IM going to be moving out. I love you. But I want you to grow up to be a man who treats people and partner with respect and who expects the same in return. So please learn from your dad's mistake. I'm moving out and getting my own place. You are welcome to come and visit any time. But if you want to stay longterm, I will ask for a rent contribution as you are a man now and old enough to pay your way'.

My mother helped me into a flat when I was 17, it was ok, learned how to look after myself quickly. Its not the end of the world, just let him know if he wants out you'll help.