AIBU To be raging at husband

[flyingumbrellas]

Hi,

Am wondering AIBU to be massively vexed at DH who washes dishes more than I do and hoovers stairs and upstairs once a fortnight. He also does morning school run (I couldn't because of work and now can't as I'm ill with a precancerous tumour and awaiting surgery). I do all the other housework and tidying. I have a slipped disc, back pain and nausea and stomach pain. I've been upstairs all day tidying and putting away washing. He's put away only his clothes. Not even our daughter's and is now sat watching a film alone while playing on the Nintendo Switch. Am I right to be upset? Or AIBU? I went downstairs and said politely please can he hoover or sweep downstairs and clean the bathroom. He starts accusing me of 'slagging him off' and storms off with switch in tow. I started crying because I wish I could do all the housework but I'm too tired and achey and have, in fairness, been tidying lots, washing lots and cook 100% of time currently. We also never do anything together ever. He says he loves me but I'm not so sure.

What are you getting out of this relationship?

I’d be peed off too. It’s exhausting being in constant pain and struggling to do everyday tasks.
He does do some household tasks so isn’t a completely lost cause. But he probably has his own Internal timetable for these and it wasn’t today.
All I can think of is drawing up a rota of daily tasks with you taking the ones that can be done sitting, or whatever is less painful for you.
I’ve come to realise that no-one can understand constant pain if they don’t have it, and I was diagnosed ( boring, non life threatening autoimmune) 8 years ago.