Carrying on from the Couples who don't share a bedroom post

[Sportslady44]

Quite alot of people saying they don't share a room in order to get a good night's sleep etc. Me included.
Just wondering what do you all do when you go on holiday as most places are geared up to sharing rooms. Having single rooms in a hotel etc is more expensive.

What if you go to stay with relatives too
Do you tell them you need a room each. Interested.

If we go on holiday I tend to book air bnb places with more than one bedroom if I have the choice. If there is no choice I end up with very little sleep despite wearing good earplugs!

In all honesty I would never choose to share a hotel room these days, and I definitely wouldn't do it for more than one night.

We share on holiday but sleep separately at home. I'm not so bothered about struggling to get to sleep when I'm on holiday as I don't have to get up early.

Can we ask the obvious question (apologies if it's been done on other post) but doesn't your sex life suffer, if you are still sexually actively together?

We had stopped having sex before we went into separate rooms. It was another reason not to share, why should i put up with his snoring when I’m not getting sex.

No it doesn't.

@hashbrownsandwich

Can we ask the obvious question (apologies if it's been done on other post) but doesn't your sex life suffer, if you are still sexually actively together?

It didn't affect it (with the caveat that we have never been frenziedly active in that department) - just go separate ways afterwards.

We go to bed together but DH usually decamps to the spare room at some point. We seem to manage ok in hotels.

Separate bedroom convert here - DH snores terribly, we end up hurting each other arguing over quilts and feet in way and “move to your side!!” disagreements when we’ve tried to co sleep.
On holidays I sleep with my daughter and he sleeps with our teenage son - sorted ;)
If this is not an option ie it’s just us we do have to share (I wouldn’t pay more for two rooms), but that’s just a sordid reminder of why not to try it at home.

As for sex, my husband works random all over the shop hours for work so we have plenty of sex during school hours. Our kids aren’t exposed and we get to be as loud as we want and no worrying about waking sleeping kids. ;) Definitely plenty of life left in our marriage, but there wouldn’t be if we slept together!!

A friend of mine, who also has separate rooms, always gets two single beds so that she doesn’t feel him shuffling around. She also takes earplugs and accepts that she won’t get a good nights sleep.

@hashbrownsandwich

Can we ask the obvious question (apologies if it's been done on other post) but doesn't your sex life suffer, if you are still sexually actively together?

My ex and I had separate beds. He was outraged when I first suggested it but we both slept better once we’d made the leap. He was a very fidgety sleeper and snores loudly. Earplugs helped with the snoring, but the tossing and turning was unbearable. Before sleep we’d both get into one bed for sex or cuddles and then go out separate ways to sleep. On holiday we would try and book rooms with either 2 doubles (rare in the uk - common in the US) or with a sofa bed (not ideal but he’ll sleep anywhere) or an air BnB with 2 rooms. Again, we’d just cuddle up in one room and then go back to our own for sleeping. Sex life definitely didn’t suffer.

The only issue was when a hotel only had 2 single beds as we’re both quite big, so I never slept well in a single. Couple of times we stayed the first night and then bailed when I had a bad nights sleep.

We book apartments with three bedrooms, one for him, one for me and one for the luggage.

Works well.

We tend to go to bed together, read/listen to a podcast/have sex, when it's sleeping time I decamp to the other room. On holiday earplugs and wine help, but I'm always glad to get home, we have a superking so holiday beds often feel cramped too. We're going away this year and have two bedrooms one with a king bed and the other with twins for DS. If it gets too bad I'll go and sleep in there although he snores too

There are more holidays abroad with studios and rooms than apartments.

We go self catering usually but if we do use hotels we book two rooms, or at the very least a room with a super king or two double beds.

We have slept apart for most of our 40yrs together. We have never had any problems with our sex life.

DP has slept in another bedroom for two years due to my snoring. But we are campervanners and sleep a few inches from each other when away but apparently that is not as bad as it is effectively two singles. We share a bed in hotels but I do try to get two singles if available.

When we go anywhere we just cope with the double bed. Not ideal but we manage. We tend to sleep apart as he likes early nights and mornings whole I like late nights and mornings he snores and has health issues that mean he's up to the bathroom two or three times a night. It's not to bad on holiday as we're both out of our normal habits.

As for other activities at home we're both allowed to visit each other at night plus we're at home together all day usually.

When on holiday we have a room together and it's not great but it's fine because we're on holiday. Sex life is better than before because we're not pissed off with each other 😊

Zombie

I didn't realise this was an old thread