Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2

Original poster

Depressed at turning 29

37 replies

veevee04 · 13/03/2022 06:57

It's my 29th Birthday today, I don't think I've achieved much in the last 2 years because of COVID and such. I know It's irrational because I'm in good health and financially comfortable. It's like 30 is edging closer and I don't feel fulfilled I should have travelled more and seen more of the world which is what I always wanted to do. I'm highly busy this year completing a course so it seems unlikely. Is this a mini life crisis thing ?

OP posts:

FirstTimeMum6666 · 13/03/2022 19:27

Everyone ages and everyone dies. No point in being depressed over an age because in a years time you will be 30! Everyone has lost some life due to lock down etc.. Guess what? Nothing you can do about it. So just keep your chin up and make things happen now.

Autumn42 · 13/03/2022 19:28

I loved my 30s, they were a brilliant time, still youthful but with the benefit of the wisdom of experience, time when career got off the ground, bought my first house, got married etc. Older now but life is still amazing, settled in career, have grandchildren, a happy marriage, feel incredibly fortunate. Can understand you feeling down about life stalling a bit but not really about turning 30?

thepeopleversuswork · 13/03/2022 19:29

Seriously, at the risk of sounding harsh, have a word with yourself.

29 is so, so young. Your life has barely started.

I can understand the existential crisis thing up to a point but have the decency to realise how spoiled you sound. There are people on here three times your age.

Gonnagetgoing · 13/03/2022 19:35

I panicked when I turned 27. God only knows why!

Autumn42 · 13/03/2022 19:39

@thepeopleversuswork

Seriously, at the risk of sounding harsh, have a word with yourself.

29 is so, so young. Your life has barely started.

I can understand the existential crisis thing up to a point but have the decency to realise how spoiled you sound. There are people on here three times your age.

Most of the people I knew who got down about turning 30 were those who’d had such a privileged youth that unfortunately nothing could ever match being 21 already with the comforts or opportunities many of us have to wait till much older to have, its like they had nothing to look forward to, sad really

Flowersandhearts · 13/03/2022 19:52

YANBU because I think most people go through similar in their late twenties or at 30. I actually felt deeply depressed about my age at 26!

However YABU because 29 is so young!

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 13/03/2022 20:03

Every birthday is a gift. Not everyone makes it to 29. Cherish it.

Original poster

veevee04 · 14/03/2022 11:27

@MurmuratingStarling

I have noticed that people - women specifically - turning 29/30, seem to dread/hate that age if they're single and childless. I never seem to hear women who are in relationships, or married with children by 30, say they are 'dreading 30,' and it's a horrible milestone. Seems to be largely single, childless women.

Is the 'dreading the age 30 milestone' a deep-rooted fear of being single forever?

I'm not childless or single it's just I felt regret. I feel a bit better today pending COVID restrictions after my course ends I will be going to Japan and Bali with my DD and OH in the summer next year. So something to look forward too.

OP posts:

MasterBeth · 14/03/2022 11:59

29 with a partner and child, travelling the world, in education... each of those things is a prilvilege denied to many.

Brainwave89 · 14/03/2022 12:16

Ages are funny. I am now mid-50s. I hated being 30. I remember feeling that the world was changing from where am I going partying on a Friday to what colour I needed to paint the living room. At forty and fifty I have not been concerned unduly, but that first big milestone birthday was a lot to get my head round.

LittleGwyneth · 14/03/2022 13:05

I felt much worse about 29 than I did about 30, even though I turned 30 in lockdown so couldn't do anything to celebrate. I think it's a funny age because it pushes you to think about what you haven't got yet that you wanted before the end of the decade.

Some good advice that I mostly ignored was to use whatever you're feeling envious about as a compass and try to achieve it wherever possible in the next year. I'm only a year in, but so far I think being in your thirties is fab.

Yaty · 14/03/2022 13:16

Yes happened to me too, had a bit of a life crisis at 29/30. Lasted about 2 years and I look back and think how silly it was. For me it was also about not having achieved what I thought I should have done by 30. I look back (at 36) and think how silly I was tbh!!

Flip

1 2