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Original poster

ASD child

9 replies

Cantthinkofausername1 · 12/03/2022 23:10

ASD/adhd/pda. His moods control our lives. He’s vile to me and his younger brother. He’s 6 btw. I feel resentful that I can’t end my life as I know what a huge impact it will have to on my family. I can’t do this any more.

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MrsSqueeze · 12/03/2022 23:16

Make plans tonight to get away from home alone. 1 or 2 nights away is better than the alternative. Spend whatever it takes, ask whoever you can. Prioritise it. You are exhausted.

MrsSqueeze · 12/03/2022 23:20

There is no easy way to support your child with complex needs. There are many posters with great advice that will ultimately make the journey better but for you the parent just get away by whatever means you can to breathe and sleep and rest your mind and body.

SoftwareDev · 12/03/2022 23:27

I understand exactly how you feel.

Son was diagnosed with ASD and I was given some info leaflets! That was it!

These leaflets provided absolutely no insight into how to deal with his destructive violet behaviour at home. I was at breaking point.

Sought help from a child psychologist who specialised in ASD. First appointment was me alone (for background info etc) then further 3 appointments with my son. It cost £250 per appointment but I’d do it again in a flash. It was literally life changing. I only wish I’d done it sooner.

alwaysscared · 12/03/2022 23:27

I'm right there with you. DS (8) has ASD, PDA, SPD and ARFID. He also suffers such chronic anxiety that he is not in school and I am his full time carer. I wish every night not to wake up in the morning. I'm so sorry you are going through this too.

MrsSqueeze · 12/03/2022 23:32

I’m a full time carer too Flowers

Seema1234 · 12/03/2022 23:33

Flowers to you.

Trying2310 · 12/03/2022 23:36

I am with you. I feel as you do. 11 year old ASC who rules and dominates our lives. Seek help from as many agencies as you can and forgot ideas of what 'normal parenting' may look like. Find what works for you and your family. We are still baby steps in and everyday is exhausting x

Original poster
Cantthinkofausername1 · 13/03/2022 07:07

Thank you for all of your replies and advice. It’s just so tough and relentless. Flowers to everyone who is in a similar position to me.

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x2boys · 13/03/2022 08:11

Unfortunately there is no alternative
My son has severe non verbal autism and learning disabilities ,he's extremely destructive and it definitely rules our lives ,there is little respite
I get my support from friends who have children with similar needs as they are the only ones who get it .

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