sad thing is i love him so much, the problem is his family.
i actually said to my friends the other day he is so lovely but there is the family to contend with and i am not sure how many would have stood it.
he is one of four brothers.
first brother - lovely
second brother - twat, stole from us, snubbed us, snubbed my children
third brother - total nutjob, did improve a while back and i actually began to think things were ok but then he got funny again and got drunk and violent at our house and threatened me with physical violence and then fought with dh and our friend, police were called. it was horrible.
despite this he still sticks with them.
the main problem is that in june his third brother seemed much calmer and saner and over his mh issues so we all booked a holiday for may of this year. my mom and dad and his dad are also coming as well as me and two children.
in november we had the big thing with third brother, i have had to tolerate him all christmas and he is not well. not well at all. he is drinking more than ever and i dont want him to come on the holiday.
we have just all gone out for a "family" night - it was ok but all the tensions, all the falseness and b3 being a twat.
have come home and said i am not sure how much longer i can deal with being treated like shit and him not standing up for us. despite the problem in november he hardly said a word to his brother, not a word. its got to the point now where i am tired of coming second best. he said he is not telling his brother he cannot come but will gladly tell his adaughter that the holiday is cancelled.
i am lost.