My DD is 24 and has been friends with this woman since they were in primary school. Her friend suffers from mental health problems and was sectioned when she was a teenager. Now she mostly manages but her marriage ending has been a huge trigger for her.
A couple of months ago DD’s friends behaviour changed. She’s a very sweet girl but she became argumentative and would ask DD whether she had been spreading rumours about her. They don’t have any mutual friends so DD isn’t clear who she would be talking to.
DD is godmother to her friends daughter, they’re very very close and would speak every day. When DD sensed her mood slipping she decided to step back as the constant arguing and worry was so stressful for her.
After over a month of no contact DD sent her flowers with a note that she was thinking of her last week. Her friend then sent all of DD’s friends requests on social media and then started posting she was being harassed. She’s not named DD but is indicating the flowers are from this stalker. She’s posted that police and lawyers are involved now as her and her daughter are at risk and that it’s been going on for months.
My DD is an absolute wreck. She’s been off her work all week as she’s terrified the police are going to kick in the door when she’s at work. She jumps every time the phone goes. We phoned the stalking helpline who said nothing would be done about someone sending flowers on one occasion when there has been no actual fallout and there’s zero evidence.
They suggested we go to the police but “all” her friend has done is making accusations but not naming her on social media.
My suggestion is for her to try and carry on as normal without contacting this woman. DD says she feels like a sitting duck waiting for something awful to happen but I strongly suspect her friend is unwell and trying to scare her.