Mother in law problems

[Idiotintraining]

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We live in same house?

On Tuesday we had an argument. She said they didn't ask me. I told her we did and I said who is lying now. She went mad and refused to do things that she was going to do. I tried to apologise and I was told I am only apologising now as I want something. Since then she has ignored me and my husband. Even though we have tried to her, saying hello and and she list ignores us.

For context she has said to me before this isn't he reason that we don't like you as all you do is lie. She has done this on numerous occasions.

So when she does it to me am I supposed to just roll over and accept it but when it's done to her she goes like this.

I'm confused

Who is being unreasonable here

Need help. I can't live in the house and I am trying to stay out of the house as much as possible so I am away from it.

You need to move our.? Two adult couples in one house is very difficult. Problem solved.

Or are they funding your lifestyle?

You should have said "remember I asked you xxxx." Or "sorry I thought I had asked. Would you mind?"

Calling someone a liar is really offensive. Even more rude while asking for favour. No wonder she is annoyed.

What age is she? I forget things all the time and have "behavioural issues" (if by that you mean she can be short tempered) and I'm only 50. I would have an even shorter temper if I lived my my dil and son.

@Iputthetrampintrampoline

Sorry lovely what I meant was she was dealing with your dads diagnosis. It must be tough on her.Tough on all of you. There is one way to sort this fast even if you feel you shouldnt have to,but it might help you short term, Make her a cuppa,sit down round the table and say sorry, You dont even have to mean it but she will appreciate it and it might smooth things over while you all deal with your dad, I am sure you can be the bigger person here, x

I think you're confused. The issues are with the OP's mother in law.

This all sounds toxic, you clearly can't all live happily together. You and your husband need to build a life of your own and let you mil live hers.

I don't think we are getting the full picture here but, based on your updates only, I would say yab massively u.

People forget things. It's been 2 weeks since you first asked. Always confirm things a few days ahead. Your line of 'who's a liar now' makes it sound like you were just itching for a fight.

I lived with my MIL for a few years, I know its hard but I would never, ever disrespect her like that for no reason at all.

I think this sounds like a very fraught situation. However, you come across as very confrontational, rigid and uncompromising. I realise that dealing with a terminally ill parent is difficult (I have been there twice) but, you cannot behave badly because you are stressed and upset. You also sound very young.

Communication is key to good relationships.
Apologise, sit down together and talk about how to get the household back onto an even keel and move forward.

Listening is also key. Hear what the other person is saying, don't just use the time they are speaking to formulate your response.