DH has always been a bit of a man child.
Always been served by his mother, grandmother and ex gfs.
When we met I clearly said that's not me and I am not here to mother him so he will need to step up and work around the house too. Which he did, not without complaining though.
We moved abroad had a baby and I am pregnant again and so a SAHM for now. Naturally I do most of childcare and housework.
Now he brought covid back home from his Saturday activity. He started to be sick and I was doing literally everything so he could just rest. His discomfort/pain tolerance is near 0. He moans, makes it sound like he is on the verge of dying etc... uses a weird voice. Clearly he has never actually been very ill.
And I am the opposite. Been through quite a bit health wise. Never moans, super practical and get on with it until I am better. I also have little sympathy for people like him. It irritates me that grown ups behave like this.
So since yesterday me and the baby have started feeling really sick with fever. Cough, flu symptoms etc.
My DH has a sore throat and cold symptoms no fever or anything crazy. Yet he is still the only one mopping around, moaning making grunting sounds, pretending like he cant clear the table or pick up the baby etc..
Constantly complaining. A nightmare.
The house was a mess and he literally wasnt helping at all. Pretending he is to unwell and watched me to everything with my temperature and feeling clearly really shit.
But i guess because I am not letting everybody know every minute of the day I dont get a break.
Aibu for feeling angry and resentful?
When I aks him to do something he will say he can't he feels to unwell most of the time. Or then will disappear after 5min.
But I believe when you have a family you need to put yourself last and attend to the ones who need you? Like am super unwell but my daughter is my priority.
What would you do?
Is it worth speaking to him about it? Or should i just get on with it and forget about him ever being able to man up.