Countless times i've told him i'm not happy. Countless times he would tell me he would change.
Since having a child he never bothers to organise dates or quality time together. He knew this was important to me and for us. He said he would step uo in that role and never did. We dont have sex. I have expressed, cried, told him how important jt was for our relationship. He never bothered. Our sex life was always one sided and selfish. He never tried to work on our sex life but didnt mind asking (jokingly according to him) for bjs.
Ive had enough. This has been going on for nearly a yr now and i am miserable. We have a baby together. I'm moving out next week. This is such a giant step for me and dc but i constantly tell my bf he isnt meeting my needs and i am unhappy and he agrees to change but doesnt. He is so neglectful of my wants.
He said ive chosen this and making me feel bad for splitting my dcs parents apart over just sex. But its not. Its the constant false pretence of going to change and not. Its the getting my hopes up, taking my countless chances and me for granted. Im only 24. Surely there must be better for me out there.
Is he right? Is this irrational.
We have had other problems that he was meant to sort out counselling for and surprise surprise never did.
Is this best for my dc? Im so scared its going to be so hard being a single mum but im done with it. Our talks mean nothing, he never wants to communicate, our relationship has no substance, because we never talk I always end up blowing up on him and then his family get invovled. They make me feel like im the one with issues. According to him i will never be happy and im just a miserable person. If anything I need the counselling. Him and his family love to drag up the fact that I come from a very unhappy household and my family were disfunctional. According to my bf that makes me hyperaware of things that arent even a problem between us. I think because I am aware that means I can see it for what it is and he cant.
Aibu for leaving him