Wardrobe

[wardrobemalfunction69]

I may be BU. I will give background briefly for context
Woman, 3 kids all young works part time, kids dad gone and non payer.
Woman scrimps a bit and does her best, lives in rented home
Man, 1 teen works full time has own house

They have been a couple over a year and are hopeful to move in marry etc down the line.

Woman has a shitty old oven and can't buy a new one so is saving and looking for second hand
Man bought new oven a couple of years ago and now wants a new one.
He's just offered to sell it to her or if not he will sell elsewhere
She can't pay for it at the moment
Does it seem a bit mean or not

Title should be oven I got confused with my name change

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He should give her the oven.
My friend bought their furniture off her ex when he pissed of with OW. Madness...

It's downright mean of him and she should reconsider the relationship.

That sounds really mean to me. Is he tight-fisted over other things?

That’s my first LTB.

To be fair he's usually very generous and kind. There's been a discussion on it and it seems that he's got ahead of himself and isn't replacing it yet but is planning to. He said in hindsight it was insensitive to make it sound like he was trying to make money and that he was thinking with blinkers on.

I'm quite shocked that he'd expect her to pay for his cast-off oven. Very mean.

After more conversation (slight argument) it seems slightly less offensive.
He would need some money from the old oven to partly pay for a new one
I said that makes perfect sense but it would be wise rather than announcing it the way he did it he perhaps should have been clear.

I'm the op, back with an update that isn't that exciting but just nice
Partner has just said he's chosen a new oven. I said that's nice and he said well we better sort out you having mine then hadn't we
He got there in the end

Oh good. For free, or is there a payment plan?

I think you are on your third name!

Why would you expect to get his oven for free? You’ve been together for a year, assuming no joint finances, don’t live together.

Buy your own oven.

I think you've missed the point there. I didn't expect to be given anything, it just felt insensitive to my situation to offer to sell me something there was no way I could afford even at a low rate.
Believe me if I could buy a working oven I would, although thanks for the suggestion, it hadn't occurred to me 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
But happily it's all worked out nicely and everyone's happy. Sorry about that