to be panicking

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I am currently on maternity leave.

I have had a pretty generous pay package by my work so have been able to continue contributing 50/50 to the bills. however, my pay is going to start dropping off to 600 a month from this month. we get a bit of top up from universal credits but this is based on what my partner earns too (he is self employed so it varies). he just said he cannot wait for the warmer weather as he will be working so much more and thus earning a lot more. I said to him dont forget I wont be able to contribute 50/50 when that happens as I will be on smp and his earnings will stop any universal credits.

well. the look on his face - he has just sulked off. saying he cannot afford to contribute anymore than he already does. I'm now really worrying - I won't be able to get by on smp and no top up because of his earnings and he wont pay anymore. I could get kicked out of my rented home - only other option I can think of is saying to him I csnt afford for him to live here if he isnt going to up his contribution.

I feel a bit deflated too as he wouldnt be able to work all the days he is going to be during the warmer weather if I wasnt here looking after our sons (twins)

Sorry to hear you're in this situation OP, his reaction is pretty shitty.

I suggest you sit down with him and go through the finances together, spell out to him the two options - you go back to work sooner and split everything 50/50, including paying £2k a month on nursery fees, or you delay going back, take a cut to your income, and he steps in to cover the rest. I imagine he'll actually be better off financially with you staying at home with the twins.

But going forward you'll need to get him to understand that you're running a household together, and need to both contribute fairly. If he's earning lots more in the summer then he needs to pay more in.

But for now focus on the immediate issue at hand - good luck

What a dickhead. Does his 50% just cover him.and 1 twin? He could be out a lot more in nursery fees. Needs to wise up and man up

What @2DogsOnMySofa said.

Another clueless bloke that expects children to cost him nothing but bleed the mother dry..

@2DogsOnMySofa

Why is it that so many adult men seem to think that children come with zero cost. Is he stupid or did he think he's not be expected to pay towards his children? does he not realise that if you didn't stay at home he'd have to help fund childcare - I also bet the op has bought most of the stuff for the children too.

Well said

In a similar position to you but not 50/50. Maybe 60/40 I pay less towards household but still a lot. My maternity pay is dropping as well . I can't cope. Am returning to work earlier than planned . There won't be nursery fees yet however as will work alternatively so whoever is off will look after the baby as we both work shifts. X