To be ashamed of the state of my house

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…but never judging others. I couldn’t care less how messy others’ houses are, if we go to a friends to play I never think twice about the mess at another parents’ house. However when it comes to my own home and having guests I’m my own harshest critic. I’m not naturally tidy but I hate living in mess so my house is somewhat of a balance. It’s functionally clean and tidy. It looks like 2 children live there because they do. My loos are clean but the grout between my tiles has seen better days. Is anyone else like this? DH thinks I’m bonkers to be scrubbing the skirting boards before anyone comes round.

If people are coming round then tidy away monster mess, clean the toilets and hoover. Make sure your cups are clean. Honestly people come to see you not your house and life's too short to be fussing over housework. Don't be slobby of course but your house doesn't need to be like a magazine cover. Friends and family are more important.

You are supposed to scrub skirting boards?

I am exactly the same as you. If anyone is coming around I will go all out, over and above. I know when I am doing it I don’t need to. They are coming to see me and my family, not my house. When I go to their house it is clean and tidy but lived in - because it is. I like that. Makes me feel at ease.

I just need to chill out, a home should be welcoming, not a show house you are terrified of sitting down in fear of spoiling.

I have to hoover daily as the amount of 'bits' dragged through house is ridiculous, I also bleach the toilet and sink daily aswell as keep kitchen pretty surface clean...If anyone comes over unexpectantly, Its usually ok , if I know someone is coming I do a ' crazy clean' quickly- the above mentioned and usually mop the floors ( hard flooring downstairs and bathroom.
I know my friends- family dont care, but I do, It makes me ancious about how they 'see' me based on my house being clean but I cant help it- a bad tarit..? Probably

I'm the same. I don't judge other people but I do judge myself.

I think it's quite common to be like that really, not just about housework but about lots of other things too. It's not very good for one though.

Think it may be partly a class thing. Traditionally working class families grow up taught that being good at housework is a virtue, possibly as a protective measure - so that people with more money are less likely to judge you if your house is clean and tidy.

Yes I’m the same / more relaxed around my side than husbands but still scrub. @BookkeeperBobby I’ve never thought about the class thing but I was brought up with the expression we maybe poor but we are not dirty. Maybe it also the explains the scorn that is poured on here when it comes to housework - it’s very mc here.,

Rest assured your house will be cleaner and more tidy than mine. My mils sage advice was no one ever lays in their death bed wishing they had dusted more. I embraced this philosophy.