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Matching bedroom furniture

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StupidUsernameUnavailable · 08/03/2022 08:39

Does everyone's DC's have matching bedroom furniture?

In the process of renovating/decorating first property. Currently DD7 has Corona wardrobe and chest of drawers and wants the matching dressing table. She's currently in a pink/white cabin bed and wants a new single. She wants a metal frame with the crystals on the four corners, but I said to her she needs the matching corona bed otherwise it's going to look a bit shit (I said weird to her!). She's having a complete colour overhaul and new carpet.

I'm a bit OCD with things matching so there is a big possibility that I'm being unreasonable. Am I?

I hate the fact that she has different already but when she got her big girl bed she was determined it had to be pink.

I just want the finished look to look fab, or should I just let her have what she wants? 🤷‍♀️

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RNBrie · 08/03/2022 08:41

There's no need to have matching furniture. I think it looks weird! It should be complimentary but not matching in my view.

RussianSpy101 · 08/03/2022 08:41

Definitely! I don’t like mismatched.

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StupidUsernameUnavailable · 08/03/2022 08:43

@RussianSpy101

That made me smile 🤣

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Blinkingheckythump · 08/03/2022 08:44

It's her room, surely it's her choice. If it looks a bit rubbish then that's fine, it's her decision to make

CorpusCallosum · 08/03/2022 08:45

No need for matching! Especially if she wants metal alongside wood. Let her have the bed she's dreaming of, you'll make her so happy!

luxxlisbon · 08/03/2022 08:46

I’m not a fan of all matching anyway but definitely not at the expense of your daughter picking what she likes for her own room. Life is too short, just let her get the bed she likes.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 08/03/2022 08:46

Complimentary is important. Everything same range can be overkill. My younger DD has a white metal bed, white malm drawers, white Billy bookcase, white trofast units and a white/pine desk and that fits together fine.

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StupidUsernameUnavailable · 08/03/2022 08:46

@CorpusCallosum

She sees it as a proper grown up girls bed and wants to put fairy lights around the top and bottom frame. Apparently it would look "epic!" 🤣

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StupidUsernameUnavailable · 08/03/2022 08:50

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

Agreed....my DD2 has a white IKEA toddler/extending bed and am going to get a white kallax unit with pretty boxes and MIL is giving us a spare white wardrobe she's had since the 70's (I think!), there's not a mark on this thing!

Non matching, but same colour I can deal with 🤣

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mistermagpie · 08/03/2022 08:53

I couldn't get worked up about it, as long as the things she wants are functional and decent quality. I don't really care about home decor though, generally, as long as everything individually is nice.

ANameChangeAgain · 08/03/2022 08:53

I don't like matchy matchy, personally. We have mostly antique furniture in our home as its cheaper, looks better and lasts better, so it co-ordinates well but doesn't match.

KylieCharlene · 08/03/2022 08:56

My DD's bedroom looks fantastic (if I do say so myself).
She has a metal bed with the crystal 4 posts on the end (and white pom pom fairy lights around the top and bottom).
Her wardrobe, drawers, bookcase and dressing table/desk are all white wood but none are from the same shop/set.
I honestly don't think it would look as good if they were a set. I think it would look too uniform and like you'd just purchased the bundle iyswim.

Instawhat · 08/03/2022 08:57

Our DC have all the odds and ends we've gathered over the years. None of DS's furniture matches and only two of DD's bookcases match each other but not the rest of the room. Can't justify the expense when we've perfectly functional stuff. Although, to be fair, her wardrobe did match the cot and changing table!

SpacePotato · 08/03/2022 09:00

I don't see the bed as part of the bedroom furniture.
Wardrobe, drawers and desk etc, yes at least the same colour but the bed makes no difference to me. One of mine has a vintage look metal bedframe (with fairy lights) and white furniture. She also thinks it looks 'epic'

Smorgasbordbaby · 08/03/2022 09:02

You're unreasonable to say "I'm a bit OCD". You either have OCD which is a debilitating mental illness or you don't.

I also don't think it's necessary to have matching furniture, my children have a mix of things that have largely been picked up 2nd hand then my lovely FiL works some magic on them to make them look new and beautiful. I don't think it's necessary for children to have matching furniture, I'd rather they had something that will serve them well and not need replacing as they get older because they've outgrown the style.

Joinedforthis22 · 08/03/2022 09:05

Just looked up Corona, so she has plain pine wardrobe and furniture. I think the metal bed with it will be fine, the pink cabin bed with it not so much! I do understand because I like things to tone as well but it's her bedroom and if she likes it then I'd unclench, it doesn't, nor should it be Instagram worthy!

girlmom21 · 08/03/2022 09:09

How would she ever be able to have the bed she wants if you stuck to your guns here OP?

If you wanted to you could sand down and paint the chest of drawers etc and add crystal handles if that would make you feel better about it being uninformed?

averythinline · 08/03/2022 09:20

What do you think gives a better message to your daughter...what is she going to remember...ooh I got a room i chose felt so special/grown up ....or I really wanted a bed with crystals but my mum wouldn't let me because it didn't match my wardrobe...

Children generally have little control over decisions in their lives ...its really good to let them have it...where there are not harmful consequences...
No-one was every harmed by not having matching stuff in a room

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StupidUsernameUnavailable · 08/03/2022 09:22

@girlmom21

That's a fab idea. Would give me a project 😊

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PureBlackVoid · 08/03/2022 09:22

I like bedroom furniture to match but not the bed. I think a matching bed looks odd for some reason.

Tiger2018 · 08/03/2022 09:29

@averythinline

I agree with this - chalk paint them in a colour she chooses. Honestly it'll look lovely! I did this with mismatched furniture and it really brings it together.

TeenPlusCat · 08/03/2022 09:36

I would say vaguely coordinated, but not all matched.

DD has a mixture of white & wood. Even the wood doesn't all match because some of it is old and some new.

Get her the bed she wants.

Gonnagetgoing · 08/03/2022 09:47

@girlmom21's idea is great and would give you a project.

I personally think matchy matchy looks awful but that's me. I prefer a mixture.

Halllyup17 · 08/03/2022 09:53

Barely any of my kids' (nor my) furniture matches. I'd love to redo all their rooms and have everything the same, but I realise it's a waste of money. My younger two, who share, have a tendancy to draw on everything so it never looks nice for very long, my eldest is autistic and doesn't want anything to change, my 14 year old knackers stuff by doing artsy stuff in her room, my 11 year old's room is on the smaller side, so finding sets that fit is awkward, and we're stuck with the fitted wardrobes that were here when we moved in so we'd need to redecorate entirely if we removed them.

I will have a nice house, eventually.

Bluesheep8 · 08/03/2022 10:16

I'm a bit OCD with things matching so there is a big possibility that I'm being unreasonable. Am I?

What does a bit OCD mean?
If you like things to match, then you like them to match, that's a preference...
Furniture can still 'match' if it's the same colour...I think a mixture looks nice if all the same colour or painted the same colour.

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