To not follow through

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Really18 · 07/03/2022 23:33

I have been unhappy in my relationship for several years. I keep telling my husband I'm unhappy, that I don't like him and want a divorce. He ignores me and pretends that I haven't said anything. Then we just carry on. I'm still unhappy. He pretends our relationship is fine. Nothing changes. I don't know what is stopping me but I'm not following through.

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Munchcrip · 07/03/2022 23:39

He thinks you're bluffing.
He doesn't care about your distress.
He only cares about his comfort.
He's treating you like a daft person.

Pack your bags and leave, stay at your family's or a friend's if you can.
It will be a smack in the face for him.
Take control of your life. He doesn't care one bit about you, why should you live a life of misery for him?

Plenty of fish in the sea.

Ionlydomassiveones · 07/03/2022 23:42

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Really18 · 07/03/2022 23:42

I have no interest in another relationship. I really can't be arsed. I would prefer to be alone.

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Person123456 · 07/03/2022 23:43

@Munchcrip

He thinks you're bluffing. He doesn't care about your distress. He only cares about his comfort. He's treating you like a daft person.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

this in a nutshell OP

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Really18 · 07/03/2022 23:45

@Ionlydomassiveones

You clearly don’t want it badly enough to do anything about it.

It's not about not wanting it. I have 2 toddlers. I'm miserable but also physically and emotionally exhausted. I don't have the capacity to fight. I just want him to listen, hear me and fuck off.

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Notimeforaname · 07/03/2022 23:50

You need to start divorce proceedings. See a solicitor.

Notimeforaname · 07/03/2022 23:51

Just do that one thing for now. Make the call. One thing at a time.

Draineddraineddrained · 08/03/2022 00:06

If he won't fuck off you will have to. Do you have any family/friends you can go and stay with temporarily? What's the situation with your home - owned or rented, your name his or both?

Draineddraineddrained · 08/03/2022 00:07

Tbh I do think if you're the one who wants to end it you're the one who needs to do something about it.

Draineddraineddrained · 08/03/2022 00:10

Also if you've been unhappy for so many years how do you have toddlers? Why would you have a baby with someone you want to leave?

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