To not follow through

[Really18]

I have been unhappy in my relationship for several years. I keep telling my husband I'm unhappy, that I don't like him and want a divorce. He ignores me and pretends that I haven't said anything. Then we just carry on. I'm still unhappy. He pretends our relationship is fine. Nothing changes. I don't know what is stopping me but I'm not following through.

He thinks you're bluffing.
He doesn't care about your distress.
He only cares about his comfort.
He's treating you like a daft person.

Pack your bags and leave, stay at your family's or a friend's if you can.
It will be a smack in the face for him.
Take control of your life. He doesn't care one bit about you, why should you live a life of misery for him?

Plenty of fish in the sea.

I have no interest in another relationship. I really can't be arsed. I would prefer to be alone.

@Munchcrip

He thinks you're bluffing. He doesn't care about your distress. He only cares about his comfort. He's treating you like a daft person.

Pack your bags and leave, stay at your family's or a friend's if you can.
It will be a smack in the face for him.
Take control of your life. He doesn't care one bit about you, why should you live a life of misery for him?

Plenty of fish in the sea.

this in a nutshell OP

@Ionlydomassiveones

You clearly don’t want it badly enough to do anything about it.

It's not about not wanting it. I have 2 toddlers. I'm miserable but also physically and emotionally exhausted. I don't have the capacity to fight. I just want him to listen, hear me and fuck off.

You need to start divorce proceedings. See a solicitor.

Just do that one thing for now. Make the call. One thing at a time.

If he won't fuck off you will have to. Do you have any family/friends you can go and stay with temporarily? What's the situation with your home - owned or rented, your name his or both?

Tbh I do think if you're the one who wants to end it you're the one who needs to do something about it.

Also if you've been unhappy for so many years how do you have toddlers? Why would you have a baby with someone you want to leave?