Am I being unreasonable to myself?

[Jvg33]

I realised tonight I am actually coasting through life. I have been someone who goes into a job and 'hopes for the best ' rather than actually proactively better my career chances. I have been overweight on and off for nearly a decade and I know how to lose weight (as I have done this before), yet I'm currently half heatedly losing it. My house is a tip, even though I know how to tidy it quickly. Some households objects need replacing, yet I do nothing even though shopping online is easy!

Am I being unreasonable by calling myself a coaster?

Are you happy? That's really all that matters. If you're not doing these things due to depression and inertia, it's a problem. If you're not doing them because you're happy enough as you are a d can't be arsed, then who cares if you're a coaster?

Hi Op, I know people will roll their eyes at this but have you ruled out ADHD? Lack of forward planning, chaotic home and unfulfilled potential are classic markers……

@BloodyN0rah

Hi Op, I know people will roll their eyes at this but have you ruled out ADHD? Lack of forward planning, chaotic home and unfulfilled potential are classic markers……

Interesting. Ill take a look.

@Draineddraineddrained

Are you happy? That's really all that matters. If you're not doing these things due to depression and inertia, it's a problem. If you're not doing them because you're happy enough as you are a d can't be arsed, then who cares if you're a coaster?

I am fairly content. Don't often feel sad.

I feel like I could have wrote this myself.

@ETPhoneHome19

I feel like I could have wrote this myself.

Thanks. Haha 🤣

This is definitely me!

Me aswell!

And me

100% coaster here!! And I infuriate myself because of it!

Sounds like me.

Then you are officially winning! I'm always amazed by how tightly wound so many high achievers are. I mean you'd think they'd be relaxed because they've done so well for themselves, but actually a lot of it seems to be driven by fear - fear of failure, fear of chaos, fear of dependency, whatever. If you're chilled out and contented then you're out in front in terms of achievement afaic.

Adhd?! Really?! How do you get checked? It would explain exactly why I can never forward plan, live in chaos and definitely not fulfilling potential.
No, don’t think you’re a coaster, whatever that is.

@Draineddraineddrained

Then you are officially winning! I'm always amazed by how tightly wound so many high achievers are. I mean you'd think they'd be relaxed because they've done so well for themselves, but actually a lot of it seems to be driven by fear - fear of failure, fear of chaos, fear of dependency, whatever. If you're chilled out and contented then you're out in front in terms of achievement afaic.

I like your outlook. My DH is definitely a high achiever. He can be wound up a lot if he has 'things to do '.