AIBU for going to another man’s flat?

[SingingAgain]

I’ve just moved to a new area a few months ago (not in the UK).

I went for a night out (my first since I moved here) and at 1am, my friend and I tried calling a taxi. We tried multiple taxi numbers and couldn’t get one. We then asked the bar staff if they could call us one (hoping locals may have more luck). Unfortunately, no joy.

We continued calling periodically for the next 2 hours until closing time. We then wandered the streets trying to see if we could flag one down. Again, no luck.

A man who we had bumped into earlier in the night kindly let us wait at his flat until we could get a taxi or lift somehow. I know this wasn’t probably a good idea as we could have put ourselves in danger, but we would have been in danger to stand around the streets in freezing temperatures in the dead of night. We eventually managed to sort a lift home at 5am! 🙈

I was perfectly honest with my husband about the whole situation but I keep feeling guilty for being a married woman and going to some random guys flat.

Was I BU or did I do the right thing?

I should also mention the walk would take at least 2 hours.

I don’t think you need feel guilty, but it may not have been safe as you say.
Did you let your DH know where you were and who with while you waited? I would have done that.

He would have come to collect me in those circumstances I think.
Anyway, lesson learned - next time book the return trip before you go out .

Is it 1860? Of course it was fine. However YWBU for going out without making a workable plan to get home.

Yes, I kept DH informed at the time (which involved me calling and waking him up). Collecting me would have involved getting the kids up out of bed. 🙈

It shouldn’t have been a problem that you went to another man’s flat, unless you wanted to have extra marital sex with him, so I am not sure why you are feeling guilty. It was, though, really silly from a personal safety point of view to accept any invitation like that from a complete stranger.

Why couldn’t your husband collect you, if you were in contact with him?

@WhiteXmas21

I don’t think you need feel guilty, but it may not have been safe as you say. Did you let your DH know where you were and who with while you waited? I would have done that. He would have come to collect me in those circumstances I think. Anyway, lesson learned - next time book the return trip before you go out .

Same

Does your DH not drive ?

I assumed taxis wouldn’t be too hard to come by. Or that we would at least get one within the 2 hours before closing time. Everywhere I’ve lived before has had a rank that you might have a long wait at, but you’d eventually get home. Not here though. 🙈

@SingingAgain

Yes, I kept DH informed at the time (which involved me calling and waking him up). Collecting me would have involved getting the kids up out of bed. 🙈

My DH would have done that, in a heartbeat, rather than leave me stranded until 5am.

You are, though, really daft not to have had a better plan for getting home.

I think it's fine, especially with two of you. It's pretty safe that way and also makes it clear to your partner you weren't being inappropriate with him in any way!

this wouldn't even enter my head as being an issue

Just a funny story the next day about your mental night haha

So 50/50 on the voting…

Yes I was silly to not have a better plan for getting home. Lesson definitely learned on that one. I’ve just never been somewhere and not been able to get home before but judging by the replies, this isn’t as unusual as I thought.