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August or September wedding?

51 replies

AugustOrSept · 07/03/2022 12:47

Getting married this summer (yes I know it's not long but MN assures me I don't need two years to plan...)

We are lucky that our venue allows us the choice between two dates - mid-August or mid-September.

I would prefer August because of weather/daylight.
DP thinks mid-September will be better for parents hoping to have holidays in August.

Really really don't want to open Pandora's box by asking key people what they want because sod's law it will be split. So hoping MN can give an idea of how awkward a mid-August wedding really would be?

Relevant details:
Wedding is in our parish (ie not a destination!!) Most guests within a 1-2 hour journey time but a few will have 3+ hr drives
Wedding is childfree other than babies (not going to debate this please - if we invited everyone's kids it would add at least 60 additional guests which we just can't afford!)
Wedding will be on a Saturday, early/mid afternoon timing.

YANBU - an August date isn't a major issue for parents
YABU - go for September and cross fingers for good weather

OP posts:
CleaningForPocketMoney · 07/03/2022 12:49

The weather in September where I am is always nicer than August. British weather is always a risk. August everything is more expensive, people are on holiday etc, definitely September.

Ifitistobesaid · 07/03/2022 12:50

September is a beautiful month and people are less likely to be away then. I’d go for that.

mumonthehill · 07/03/2022 12:51

We got married in September and it was lovely weather. Also those people with children may already have holidays etc booked in August so may be more able to attend in September.

FleeceNavidadFromTheSheep · 07/03/2022 12:53

Mid-September - Better chance of good weather and also fewer people on holiday.

Thepaintedgarden · 07/03/2022 12:53

August would be awful for parents of school aged children - unless you actually want people not to be able to come (which might be fine? But lots of people might have already planned their holidays).
September tends to be the best weather on my experience anyway.

RampantIvy · 07/03/2022 12:54

Also, if people require accommodation there might be more availability in September. We often have better weather in September here in Yorkshire as well.

loobylou10 · 07/03/2022 12:56

I'd do September - bizarrely the weather does seem better than in august.

Pedalpushers · 07/03/2022 12:57

August is actually the wettest non-winter month of the year so the weather may not be that great!

September is so much easier all round.

babyjellyfish · 07/03/2022 12:57

Mid September.

Fifthtimelucky · 07/03/2022 12:57

I'd agree with September. The weather is often better (by which I mean dryer) and you're less likely to clash with guests' holidays.

minniep · 07/03/2022 12:57

I always love a September wedding so that's what I'd go for. People often have their main summer holidays planned for August and I'll never forget my best friends wedding during an mid August heatwave in 2003. It was too hot.

SleepingStandingUp · 07/03/2022 12:58

September. Weather actually usually good, last outdoor September I went to I caught slight sunburn but we'd all been prepared with wellies!!
Cheaper for everything as it isn't peak.
People unlikely to be away.
Give yourself a few extra weeks to plan

CornishGem1975 · 07/03/2022 13:05

I vote for September, often really lovely weather, I think the late summer light is gorgeous.

PatSpringleaf · 07/03/2022 13:08

Definitely September. It'll be lovely.

dirtyjoan · 07/03/2022 13:09

September for all the reasons already stated. Weather is good, fewer people away, cheaper accommodation etc

Also as child free, family and babysitters less likely to be on holiday too.

AncientofMuMu · 07/03/2022 13:11

I'd go for September, for many of the reasons PP have said but also, you get that beautiful golden light in September that makes for beautiful wedding photos.

BestIsWest · 07/03/2022 13:12

We got married mid September and the weather was lovely. It’s also a good time for anniversary breaks as it’s not bang in the middle of school holidays and the weather is usually good.

ChocolateRiver · 07/03/2022 13:15

I’d go for September. August is often wetter than September, plus people may already have booked holidays in August whereas they’re more likely to be here in September.

Mumdiva99 · 07/03/2022 13:17

Definitely mid September. It's not just your guests availability but their babysitters.

MrsMoastyToasty · 07/03/2022 13:19

September.

Lots of guests with kids are likely to be away on holiday in August.
It'll won't be quite so hot but still pleasant weather. Worth thinking about if you're going to be trussed up in a wedding dress.

Mumdiva99 · 07/03/2022 13:20

Although you should check with the key attendees before booking if you really want them there. We checked with both sets of parents and my best friends. I would have been gutted if any of them couldn't come and would have rescheduled. As it was only 1 friend was away....but I had to live with that.

TheDuchessOfMN · 07/03/2022 13:23

I voted September, mainly because it’s very short notice and a lot of people go on holiday in mid August.

Mid September is a lovely time of year.

Congrats Flowers

mrstnov13 · 07/03/2022 13:23

September.

Sarcobaleno · 07/03/2022 13:25

September. If you go for august don't be pissed off if people can't attend or can't commit because of holiday plans, holidays are important and especially after the last couple of years. Also, September weather is still lovely

SmallOrFarAway · 07/03/2022 13:31

September, my early august wedding was both bizarrely too hot and stuffy inside but it also rained quite a bit so nobody could be outside much. Plus extra expense for the suppliers as they are so in demand during the peak of summer holidays. Also then if you wanted to have a honeymoon soon after it, you can get much better prices than if you were trying to go at the end of school summer holidays.