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Trippingslippingx1 · 06/03/2022 10:47

Hey

During the pandemic I distanced myself from some people who barely contacted me during the pandemic. I knew they may have had their reasons for not reaching out but I did live alone. Prior to this I found out there had been unsavoury comments about me - just the usual tittle tattle that can occur in groups of woman.

Anyway I did not think they would notice that much as they did not seem to like me much anyway.

I had deleted their numbers and honestly forgotten and forgiving largely.

I awoke to a message of a number I do noy have in my phone this morning..

‘X, you have friends you can reach out to and speak to. It just takes making the move’.
I thought it was a marketing message or spam or something.

Anways asked my friend and he says its one of thag group of womans number.
I was like 🤣 - The last thing I heard about this woman was that she was messaging nonsense about me behind my back (gossip) and I just decided to laugh it off and leave it. Have not heard from her about 2-3 years 😂

Any advice here? Should I shoot her a quick message to shut it down or just leave it? It was sent late last night so I can only imagine they were all out drinking and gossiping whilst I was snuggled up in peace in my flat.

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AnotherFuckingUsername · 06/03/2022 11:00

You chose to initially delete the number with good reason. On that basis, I'd personally block the number (from further texts) and delete the text without explanation. Your life has moved on Smile

Reminds me of an ex that tried to gain control / entry back to my life by sending texts like that.

Trippingslippingx1 · 06/03/2022 11:01

I was going to block now - and yes it feels like an ex getting back in touch to assert some sort of control. What happened to ‘hey how are you? Not heard from you in a while hope everythings great…’ 😂🤣

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Hellocatshome · 06/03/2022 11:02

Block and delete. Sounds like they are bored and want to draw you into some drama or other that you can do without.

Trippingslippingx1 · 06/03/2022 11:04

Thats what my friend said she said they just want the gossip. I am fairly MIA on social media also - have been dating etc but do not post a thing about anything. I think it drives them potty.

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Bundlesofchocforme · 06/03/2022 11:05

I agree with others, block and move on. Some people just can’t fathom that they are not the centre of everyone’s universe! Whatever you reply will be gossip fodder so ignoring and living your own happy life is the best way…

Trippingslippingx1 · 06/03/2022 11:08

It is just completely bizarre timing - no merry christmas or happy new year message - no checking to see how my job promotion went 😂 so random.

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TheMooch · 06/03/2022 11:09

Their agenda for contacting you sounds dodgy, and not for your benefit but to give them gossip.

Just delete, ignore. You don't need them in your life.

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