How long did it take you to settle into new job?

[Rainydays55]

How long did it take you to settle into your job? For it to start to feel normal? Did you find it tiring at first? Any tips on getting through the first few weeks?

I’m watching this with interest as I start a new job tomorrow!! It’s totally different to anything I’ve done before so it’s going to take more “settling” I can see.

Previously it’s taken me quite a few weeks to find my feet. By my first pay day I’m usually fairly comfortable.
Good luck op, you won’t be on your own..

It's normally said that it's 3 months, if the job is at all complicated.

I always keep in my head that "in a month's time, most of this will be routine".

Good luck to those with new jobs!

Every job I’ve had, I’ve wanted to quit after first day. My first job as Office Junior was basically doing everything whilst the Secretary went out for long lunches with MD, but I gained good secretarial skills and was promoted within 3 months.

I would say 2 weeks to know if you like the job and the people you work with, then another month to feel settled.

After a couple of weeks I find the over tiredness tends to ease off as your not on high alert in a new environment anymore!
Then it just turns to normal tiredness which never goes away (although that could just be me)
One thing I do keep bleating on about on here though is the atmosphere at work....I lasted 3 months in my previous job and just didn't 'fit in', it made me completely miserable.
I have been at my current employer for 3 weeks and absolutely love it, it makes such a massive difference!
My point is if you don't settle in your normal time frame you are probably flogging a dead horse (I knew it wasn't me in my old role, I'm usually quick to get to know people and make 'work friends ' easily, fuck knows what they're agenda was but I wasn't hanging around to find out!) So please don't force yourself to keep trying if it isn't working out.

I’m going to say 3 months or even longer depending on complexities. We have had a lot of new staff lately and it must have been awful for them to join a team when we were 100% home working. We go back 2 days a week next week so he good for them to finally meet their colleagues and managers. I think for me 3-6months until I feel comfortable in the job.

3 months for me . The first few weeks are the hardest though .

In my first proper job, I still didn't feel relaxed and confident after two years. It was the wrong job for me.

I career changed and was pretty happy within two weeks. Extremely well settled after two months. I had known at interview that I would fit in.

Im 5 weeks in, the first 2 were short hours as training and not in the office, so 3 weeks in 'proper' role. I feel ive settled in now, i know my way around the building, am getting used to working flexi time etc. In terms of the job the trainers have said to allow a good 6 months to feel confident/ competent.

It takes me about 6 months but I work part time so will probably add up to about 3/4 months!
I find a new job very tiring and the days seem so long for some reason.

Several weeks-a few months.

I met up with old colleagues after 5/6 weeks and was talking about my new job. One of them actually asked if I had regretted the move as I didn’t seem happy in my new job! I actually loved my new job but, after a decade at my old place, it was a big change and it took quite a bit of adjusting to. I’ve been there 7 years already.

It took me six months. I hated it until then because I didn't feel settled. As soon as 6 six months passed I felt more "at home" there and I love it now.

I am not good with change, and hate every new job for 6months. the only one I still hated after 6 months I left after 11months. Don't regret that at all.

Usually about two weeks.

I've only had two jobs where that didn't happen. The first was a very large organisation where the culture was 'who cares if our customer service is non-existent' and I couldn't ultimately work for a company with that attitude. And the other, my boss (recruited after me) was a competitive neurotic nightmare who had a panic attack every time anything I did was praised by any of the directors. It was never going to end well

I would say a year because my workplace works on a 'yearly schedule' (for lack of a better word) with different key termly events so I fully felt like I knew what was going on after a year.

love this thread.

Sorry 20 years at work and have never worked out why some places were easiest than others. Is is being about being around positive, caring, enabling people, is it about being able to do the job, it is about confidence, is it familarity - being able to bring knowledge and experience from other jobs.

Personally for me, I think what stops the Sunday night dread is when I get a day of during the week and work a weekend day (which my folks think is uncomprehendable but it's not their life) but I like it that way and wonder if not working the standard 9-5 helps avoid the sunday night dread that may set in at the thought of another week.

My most recent job I felt 'affinity' with straight away on first day, the job before that less so as much as I was confirmed as the most smiley person during training, deep down I knew I didn't want to do a sales role.

Thank you for all of your replies! Do you have any tips on how’s best to get through the first few weeks , being kind to yourself if you are tired, how not to worry that you are doing a good job etc?

For me it was just accepting that I wasnt going to know everything in the first week. Ive gone from retail and being on my feet all day to an office, sit down job. I found that hard, forever fidgeting in my chair, but I was more knackered at night than I ever was running around all day!!
Ive got used to it now though and no longer zonk out at 7pm. Just remember they picked you so believe in yourself 💐

I think 6 months to feel at home in the new job/workplace. So be patient and compassionate with yourself on the way there.

being kind to yourself if you are tired, how not to worry that you are doing a good job etc?

It's just what you've said really - be kind to yourself. Choose actively to be kind to yourself. Allow yourself more time to rest on non-work days, don't overbook yourself. Do nice things for no other reason than because they make you feel good. Maybe plan a treat for yourself so you have something to look forward to.

Normal self-compassion techniques. Same with the worries - normal healthy self-talk etc. Remind yourself you're learning, don't beat yourself up, keep a notebook of your achievements each day/week, no matter how small. Give yourself credit.

My job is pretty complex (as is the company I work for!) and I'm just about feeling like I'm up to speed 6 months in. I had a bit of a wobble over Christmas when I was the only one from my team in and didn't have anyone to ask for help, but I'm now getting to the point where I think I would be much more able to handle things alone. Mind you, once I've got to grips with my company I need to work out how some of the wider group stuff works, and that's even more baffling!