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To ask you about your sensory issues?

104 replies

Wednesdayafternoon · 06/03/2022 01:59

Just that really. My eldest son has some sensory issues with textures, and I can really relate to his frustrations. He's overcome ALOT but easily gets frustrated with his socks, shoes and underwear. Anything that's tight. Getting dressed is not fun!

I've never really thought about it before but I have a few sensory issues myself. For example...

  • Wearing a polo neck, even through i wear them all the time if it touches my neck in the wrong place it will make me feel unwell!
  • socks, if they're too short and baggy it will literally spoil my day because it makes my whole body feel so uncomfortable
  • bedding that is baggy... so irritating. Can't get over it
  • panty liner... I absolutely hate them. I had to wear one the other day and in my head it just made my underwear and jeans too tight. I was on edge until I could remove it.

That's it really. I even feel on edge typing them up!
I've never really thought of these things as sensory issues before just things that made me feel so irritated and I never knew why but realising it actually feels good!

OP posts:
Mylittlepotofjoy · 06/03/2022 10:17

Tight or fitted clothes . I always buy my clothes a size or 2 bigger than necessary . And bras just no !!!!!! They literally drive me bananas

Derrymum123 · 06/03/2022 10:25

Feathers -the thought they've been attached to a bird, even if they are fake.
Jumpers with high wool content
Whistling of any kind whatsoever
Drumming of fingers on a hard surface
Scraping chairs on a hard floor
Birds flying near me
Angry

couldhave · 06/03/2022 10:36

I can hear peoples mouths moving on the radio (there was a doctor who used to be on Jeremy Vines show whose mouth did this, nearly crashed the car a few times)
Yes Dr Sarah Jarvis, think she is still on the show weekly.
She makes sticky mouth sounds. It could probably be helped by a big drink of water before the show.
Sorry to be mean, but I have to turn off the radio, which is a shame because she is v sensible. God knows how she has put up with JV's right-wing attitude to public sector workers (which includes the NHS) all these years.

zingally · 06/03/2022 10:44

I consider myself neurotypical, but I have so many sensory things. Just thinking about them now, makes me cringe.
1: People eating crisps... Although it's more the crinkly sound of the packet that I hate.
2: Cracking knuckles.
3: People biting their nails. That's probably my worst one. The sound, the look on their face while they do it... I can look away, but even just knowing someone near me is doing it... Gives me the fury.
4: People who sniff - blow your damn nose!
5: Wooden lolly sticks. The feeling of them on my teeth is horrid.
6: Cardboard straws. Not too bad if it's a drink I'm going to finish quickly, or if I can reasonably just drink straight from the glass. But if it was something from a paper cup, or something thick like a milkshake, I carry plastic smoothie straws in my car for this exact reason.
7: The feel of velvet being brushed the wrong way.
8: The sound of someone eating something solid, yet dribbly, like an orange. Just a slurpy horrible sound.
9: My sister drinking ANYTHING. Any drink, she doesn't just swallow it. She takes the liquid in her mouth, and holds it there, with her cheeks bulging out like a hamster, THEN swallows. Just looking at her drinking makes me furious.
10: Socks that are too tight around the ankles. I wouldn't say I have particularly abnormally large ankles, but most socks, they are just too tight. I also hate socks with seams across the toes. The only ones I like are the M&S SuperSoft range.
11: Labels in clothes. I'm not as bad with these as I used to be, but some labels I still have to cut out.

couldhave · 06/03/2022 10:44

Yes, also, to labels, especially some that are really hard - why do this?

And no wool, even cashmere. When I used to wear it, I would get to dinner time and could literally have ripped it off. can tolerate merino, but it is not warm enough for winter.

Also agree with saggy socks around ankles. Sometimes just pulling up my socks straight is enough to improve my mood, or maybe the saggy socks are driving my subconscious insane.

I think these issues are often referred to as being 'highly sensitive', which I am, it is v common in my profession apparently!

NippyWoowoo · 06/03/2022 11:15

My biggest one is bread. I can only eat hard bread. So any bread usually from the bakers, but a sliced loaf? HAS to be toasted. I cannot eat sandwiches made from bread that hasn't been toasted, so store bought ones are no good.

I can't explain it, but it seems all so disgustingly squishy to me. There's nothing worse than being at an event and starving and they bring out the food and it's sandwiches. I've tried once out of hunger to just bear it, but the second I took a bite I had to spit it out and down lots of a drink, I nearly vomited.

My family thinks I'm really weird for this, I don't know why it is, I manage fine with wraps.

CounsellorTroi · 06/03/2022 11:18

Certain kinds of grating sounds like people shuffling their feet over a sandy tiled floor. Goes through me.

Milkshake54 · 06/03/2022 11:19

The sounds of Toothbrush or other brushes... thank goodness for electric toothbrushes 😳. Had to overcome when brushing my children's teeth!

Unwashed new clothes, but particularly socks!

Repetitive noises - tapping, beats in songs 😳

couldhave · 06/03/2022 12:05

Just been reminded by a pp of another: toothpaste. I hate the texture, taste, smell, everything about it. I can make myself tolerate one type at a time and then can't use any other type without to start again with building tolerance. Currently used one type for 15 years at least now.
Other people brushing teeth, yuck. When i see people brushing teeth in company of others e.g. on TV I have to switch over/off. Electric toothbrushes no different to manual. That advert with Mo Farrah, can't watch.

GenderCriticalTrumpets · 06/03/2022 12:21

Clothes are a big thing for me. Too tight on the neck or wrists or shoulders and it makes me so so angry. Those elasticated wrist type sleeves are just awful. Socks too. Noises aren't great. Smells too are massive. Good smells make me so happy, bad ones make me cry.

TruJay · 06/03/2022 13:20

Both my children as autistic so we have an abundance of sensory issues in our house. I’m 99.9% sure I am also autistic, I’ve always felt different but going through the diagnostic process with my kids, I relate to everything.

I would say my worst sensory issue is with sound, for example, I struggle massively when out in a restaurant. I can hear everything, the music, the food prep in the kitchen, other customers conversations, their cutlery scraping on their plates. I can sometimes block it out but it’s exhausting. Other times I just cannot focus on what my dh or kids are saying because of all the outside interference. It is very difficult. I sometimes bite my tongue as a distraction which is painful but it works as awful as that sounds.

I also struggle in a car when everyone is talking and the radio is on, it has to be one or the other as I cannot focus when it’s both, there’s too much stimulation.

Food texture and appearance is also a biggy for me, there’s many things I will not even try because of what they look like, I know their texture will make me gip. I’m 33 and have never tried quiche as it just looks vile to me.

I’ve always been classed as a fussy eater but it’s more in depth than that. I will eat an abundance of what I class as my safe foods, as will my children. My dd will have no ‘wet’ foods or sauces of any kind, my ds will have a few select sauces - gravy and ketchup. They know if different brands have been used within the first bite. We have the same few meals on repeat. Food cannot be touching each other, and must be identifiable as what it is. So a bolognese is a no as it’s many ingredients mixed together but a roast dinner with a meat portion, veg and yorkshire puds all not touching is fine - for the kids not me, I will eat mixed dishes.
I have eaten a wider range of foods as I have got older, maybe they will too?

One thing I CANNOT do is eat a sandwich that I have seen someone make, I can eat and love sandwiches so I can eat one say if I got a Tesco meal deal, no issue but if I see someone make a sandwich and then serve me it, I would find it hard not to gip, very odd and I cannot explain it at all.

Clothing is a major one for the kids, all labels are removed from clothing, it’s all soft materials, jeans are a no for both of them. As soon as we get home, they are straight back into pjs.

My kids will both have to touch things of certain textures too, so if a wall looks appealing they would spend a good deal of time touching it. My dd mouths a lot too and licks many things including people bless her. We have to keep her very close as it doesn’t matter if it’s a stranger!

TruJay · 06/03/2022 13:24

@couldhave Omg yes! I have never encountered another person with this, I cannot have anyone else near me when I’m brushing my teeth and no way in hell can they brush their teeth at the same time as me!
I’m also exactly the same when eating cereal, if someone speaks to me while I’m eating cereal I have to throw it away, it makes me physically ill. And I cannot eat cereal at the same time someone else is eating theres. Cannot explain it at all.

Genegenieee · 06/03/2022 13:25

@bellac11

Dont get me started. I have tested out ASD screeners and score very low (I get them from work) so I know Im not high on the spectrum but my god am I fussy when it comes to things like this

Noise, bright lights, particular pronounciations from people who say their 's' in a certain way or if I can hear peoples mouths moving on the radio (there was a doctor who used to be on Jeremy Vines show whose mouth did this, nearly crashed the car a few times).

I also HATE duvet covers that end up with empty bits and the duvet slips down inside it.

Also people with quite gravelly or mucasy (thats not a word) throat voices, like the man that used to do the Mr Kipling voice over, awful, almost a bit gargly.

Thus! The noise of people's mouths moving / bits of mouth sticking together and separating (because mouth dry) - on tv, radio, podcasts and now everywhere due to zoom calls. Boak.

I struggle in real life with this to but to a lesser degree as not amplified and also irl if you take a mouthful of water inevitably they will too and it stops.

bellac11 · 06/03/2022 13:32

Just reading a post above, yes scraping the plate. OH eats in a way which means his fork or knife always scrapes along the plate and has that high pitched noise, it takes my breath away.

Justanotherobserver · 06/03/2022 13:48

This list could get quite long but here goes.

Labels at the back of the neck in clothes drive me nuts. Get it off me, now!

Perfume, I hate it. The perfume that people wear and the smell of fabric conditioner - just nasty. Natural smells are acceptable, even manure, but not manufactured ones.

The sound of people eating, all that licking and slobbering.

The sound of someone dragging their heels on the floor. Pick your damned feet up!

Shopping music. Christmas shopping music is the worst and makes me want to burn the shop down, the more so if I hear anyone singing along with it.

Noisy machinery - chain saws, strimmers, stone cutting equipment etc..

Dry cotton against my teeth.

Tight clothing. Bras especially are torture devices. In fact anything that constricts my body is just wrong and, frankly, I'd like to have fur instead. Why can't we have fur like other mammals? It ain't right.

That's it for the moment, but I've probably left something out.

NippyWoowoo · 06/03/2022 21:20

Other people brushing teeth, yuck. When i see people brushing teeth in company of others e.g. on TV I have to switch over/off.

I'm exactly the same, and when I babysit when I was younger, having to brush the children's teeth made me literally gag.

Thecurtainsofdestiny · 06/03/2022 21:25

Scratchy clothes. No!

Scratchy furniture ( like tweed).

Leather or faux leather furniture.

Violins! Make me feel violent. Many a good tune has been spoiled for me due to violins.

letsgetbackto2019 · 06/03/2022 21:28

I’m the same as my son as I hate showering (as an adult I do it anyway tho) and water in my eyes, I literally feel them burning. Still carry a towel in the shower and am 40.

hundredthingstodo · 06/03/2022 21:37

More than one noise at once. Today I was upstairs and DP had the living room tv on, radio in the kitchen and one of DC toys kept singing. It makes me feel so overwhelmed.

Anything wooden especially when wet/washed - I could never have a wooden spoon or utensil in the house because I physically can't touch them

hundredthingstodo · 06/03/2022 21:39

Also getting dressed after showering, socks on carpet, any small foods like beans/peas/sweetcorn

TakeMe2Insanity · 06/03/2022 21:40

Thank you for this thread. I’ve had no idea what people have meant(in general) by sensory issues and I’ve wanted to ask but felt it was too much to ask in passing conversations. So thank you.

LavenderBlue95 · 06/03/2022 21:42

Sounds:

Grinding teeth
Nails on a chalk board
When people hack phlegm up
If someone bangs a door/cupboard even a tiny bit louder than normal it really angers me!

Feel:
Fussy with socks
Can't stand the feel of raw meat
I absolutely hate it when I get blankets tangled round my legs
When the duvet slips and you're left with the top part of the cover!

PaperMonster · 06/03/2022 21:44

I can’t stand even the thought of certain materials - goes right through me. Daughter is the same - both with the same fabrics as me and also others.

Can’t deal with continuous alarm noise. Neither can daughter.

There’s a certain noise that lorries make when they’re waiting at the junction on the main road near to our house and I have to make a noise to drown it out as it makes me feel sick.

Eating noises. Strangely I’m mostly ok when my daughter makes them, but not others. Like someone else has said, it makes me feel violent.

I can’t bear the feel of peeling oranges/tangerines. I also struggle with the smell - but that only came on during pregnancy and never disappeared!!

Slurping noises.

Daughter can’t bear to look at or use soap or most hand gels. I get her a spray.

She can’t wear tight clothes such as leggings, most trousers or tights. Can’t have buckled or laced shoes as her feet feel too enclosed. Couldn’t bear to be barefoot until recently.

uptonogoode · 06/03/2022 21:51

Socks (any)
Labels

Having my nails filed 🤢🤢

I love really soft and old bedding though it feels nice against my legs

PaperMonster · 06/03/2022 21:53

@hundredthingstodo - yes, too many sounds at once. I can deal ok with a load of noisy kids in a room, but add a different noise in and I struggle!

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