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AIBU?

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Angry Slave

10 replies

Slave666666 · 05/03/2022 21:48

OK.... I'm angry right now.... Tomorrow (as always.... As every fucking day..... Will be seen as ok.... As this is normal.... As meh, that's life but i beed to vent) Been with DP 12 years (4380 days i say in jest!) ... He's always been lazy.... I guess I've always just thought i could do no better..... Used to be love (it really did) .... Until DC arrived 6 years ago when I realised just what a fucking doormat I am!..... I moved away from friends, family, job (1.5 hours by car so not too far) for this fucking dweeb, got mortgaged up and we are where we are.... I worked full time up until small person 6 years ago when i reduced to 30 hours a week, he has started working full time at the start of lockdown after being on reduced hours at a dead end company (not for want of trying to get him to find a proper job) ...i do literally EVERYTHING in the house (seriously.....) ......and I'm not the most motivated of people so find it fucking hard to try and keep on top of it all (i might add that he is 52....I'm 38 so an age gap - not that it matters).... I'm typing this on my notepad in sporadic bursts so it may not be sequential!..... Anway...Wednesday night I've never felt so ill..... Turns out I've got covid and to be fair it's knocked me for six (not woe is me.... I'm alive....I'm grateful.... Its all good).... But.... I've not been a proper fucking servant because I feel like a dog turd... And boy don't i fucking know it....well tonight I've finally made a stand..... I've done all the washing and when it finished i asked for him to help me sort out the tumble dry from the stuff that needs to dry naturally..... He moaned and moaned what i wanted.... (dragging him away from Instagram and TV) and when he saw his response was "oh fuck that shit, not dealing with that tonight, it can wait until tomorrow" (he needs his hi vis for work Monday and it can't be tumble dried..)..... So.... I did something that I've always threatened but never done..... I sorted all the washing but left all his clean stuff in a damp heap on the floor in our outhouse for him to fucking sort out tomorrow........... I even went into the living room when I'd finished and told him (head down into the phone) what I'd done.... He said OK whatever (ha!)........ He's just got up to go to the loo and noticed what I've done....he's absolutely furious.... Omg I dont even know why I'm writing this now..... I guess my AIBU is.....DO I NEED TO LEAVE THIS MAN?..... Yes... YANBU..... No.. YABU..... My next.... Is how? 😞 There's way too much history so pretty sure its going to be a drip feed so apologies in advance!!

OP posts:
Bevvyoc · 05/03/2022 21:51

Yes you do need to leave this man child.

busyeatingbiscuits · 05/03/2022 22:03

Yes you need to get rid of this dead weight.

In the mean time, stop doing any washing, cooking or cleaning for him. Sort out yourself and your child only.

Squidinkk · 05/03/2022 22:08

Don't do anything for him the lazy arsehole

LifeGoesOn222 · 05/03/2022 22:22

Good. You've found your anger. First step.

Why do you do stuff for him? Do you cook for him too? Just stop. You'll save so much time.

Meanwhile, work on your exit plan.

GraffitiNob · 05/03/2022 22:25

Boot him, and get well soon Flowers

MistyGreenAndBlue · 05/03/2022 22:33

Even if he didn't sound like such a useless lump you seem to hate him so much you might as well leave.

toomuchlaundry · 05/03/2022 22:39

What is your financial position?

Luredbyapomegranate · 05/03/2022 22:53

As soon as you feel better, gather all your point financial info. Go see a solicitor. Figure out a plan, get yourself organised. When you are ready tell him you are separating.

Don’t stay in a marriage you hate. You only get one life and it’s a bad example to your kids.

Crack on .

DaisyDuck999 · 05/03/2022 23:01

Run run as fast as you can, he won't catch you he's a lazy dickhead man!

Good luck in your new lovely life that will soon be all yours ,start planning now..I used to be with a loser like this and leaving him was the best thing I ever did. 😁🍾🥂

VodselForDinner · 05/03/2022 23:04

Life’s too short to put up with that shit.

What’s your housing and financial situation? You mention partner and not husband so I assume you’re not married which will make it easier to some extent, depending on how financially independent you are.

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