How to react?

[Pearldrops]

I’ve been pretty sick since Thursday, side effects to a procedure that I’ve had. Dh has had to to hold fort although I feel like stressed with all the tidying I will have to do once I feel better as the kids have pretty much done what they liked . Last night I reminded him to put the kids uniforms in the wash. Today he’s taken the kids out to his mums to allow me to rest. I messaged him earlier on in the day to ask whether he’d put the clothes in the dryer - he said yes he had. I’ve just gone down to get something and noticed the machine door is open with the clothes still inside?
I’m so surprised at the confidence of his lie and not even sure why he had? WWD?

I wouldn’t jump to the thought he had lied on purpose, before now I have been sure I have done a job like that only to later find I hadn’t.

The confidence of his lie, deary me. It's hardly earth shattering stuff is it? He probably forgot going out in a rush or something. There's loads of time to wash and dry them before Monday.

I think your reaction is a little extreme

I'd suggest he told a white lie to stop you from worrying and getting up and doing it yourself as he wanted you to stay in bed.

Clothes in the dryer this evening will do no harm....

thanks , I thought perhaps he’d thought it’s easier to tell a white lie.
It’s the detail he put in to his answer which makes me wonder how he could have a false memory.

Detail of the message? Saying yes he had is hardly detailed!

What possible motive could he have for intentionally lying about something so inconsequential?

What an unusual response you have to him.

Well he's doing a shit job so you'll never ask him again..

Yes I know it’s not earth shattering stuff, I actually appreciate the reminder - but needed to ask as I don’t care about the clothes just wasn’t sure why he didn’t just say he forgot and felt like he needed to come up with ‘detailed’ lie . My question was should I speak to him about it or just leave it?

Detail?

I’m imagining:

‘Did you put the dryer on’
‘Yes’

So a lie but not an elaborate one.

Unless there's way more to this then ''yes he had' is hardly a detailed lie, is it?

@Pearldrops

Yes I know it’s not earth shattering stuff, I actually appreciate the reminder - but needed to ask as I don’t care about the clothes just wasn’t sure why he didn’t just say he forgot and felt like he needed to come up with ‘detailed’ lie . My question was should I speak to him about it or just leave it?

You sound like you suspect him of having a serious or suspicious motive for his “lie”

What do you think he is hiding?

Is it possible that he thought he had, but didn’t shut the door properly? Happened to me just the other day - I went to get a load out of the machine and I hadn’t pressed the start button fully, so it hadn’t done.

Hope you feel better soon.

When I have my hands full, sometimes I think I've done a small chore when actually I skipped it. In my head I'm telling myself I need to do it and thinking of or picturing the steps. Only hours later I realise I thought of doing it but haven't actually done it. Especially when it is something as quick and simple as turning on the microwave or the dryer. It's a mistake or a false memory, hardly a lie worth berating someone over.

No the machine and the dryer are in different places
I didn’t give his exact response in which he’d mentioned that he’d run the clothes thru the machine again and then took it to the dryer.
I guess I’ll leave it
And hopefully he will remember to actually do what he’s said he’s already done as he’s working tomorrow!
Thanks, hope I feel better soon too and not wait for anyone to do these things

Thank you all, just called him. He had left clothes in there from Wednesday !! which he then had to rewatch and put in the dryer
Then he put the uniforms in which are now ‘waiting’ to go in to the dryer…

So the detailed answer makes sense 😂

Unless part of a lying pattern, I'd not sweat the small stuff. Feel better soon.