My mum married a controlling man- it’s ruined mine, my sisters and my kids relationship with my Mother as he controls her life and she has to put his kids and grandkids over her own children and grandkids. I have lost all respect for her over a 30 year period as she has never been there for us in any way and he’s so toxic he has poisoned her mind against us (me & my sister).
My best friend is now with a similar type of man. They have just had a baby together & she’s not ‘allowed’ to see anyone at weekends as he dictates that to be family time and everything revolves around him and his family. It’s impossible to see her as months are booked up with his family and I know that she is lonely and wants to see people but he doesn’t let her. He’s a controlling dick and I can see exactly the same pattern of behaviour as with my mum. He doesn’t have friends and resents my friend having close relationships with me and another good friend. My friend was desperate to meet someone after being single for years but has gone from confident independent woman to really passive and meek and it’s horrible to see.
Aibu to be so depressed by it- I don’t know what to do. Like I said, it ruined my relationship with my mother and I feel so sad to see my friend with a similar type of man.