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Anyone else get this weird feeling?

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 04/03/2022 21:14

Every now and then I get this weird feeling like I’m waiting for something to happen. It’s not like impending doom because it doesn’t necessarily feel negative, it’s just like I feel stuck in pause and I’m just waiting.

I end up refreshing emails constantly or checking the news like I know something is going to be there that I’m waiting for but I don’t know what it is… Am I losing it? Grin

YABU - you’ve absolutely lost the plot nun
YANBU - I get it too!

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Branster · 04/03/2022 21:54

It's never related to major personal or word events. Not related to anything, no rhythm to it. Sudden and random.

Dimsummummy · 04/03/2022 21:54

Is it like the feeling in the air when a thunderstorm is brewing, but intensely? If so, me!

Dimsummummy · 04/03/2022 21:55
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nancybotwinbloom · 04/03/2022 21:56

@Daenerys77

Well. I had this a couple of weeks ago walking the dog.

Had my headphones on and I was walking and went to cross over a little road on a housing estate. There was a car coming a little white one and I stopped at the kirb, the car flashed me to to go so I went and waved to say thank you. Got about 10 metres up and I turned round and had to walk back again, can't remember what for now but I walked back over the road I'd just walked over, on my way back I got back to the little road, literally two minutes later and there was a little white car again, it flashed me to walk and I did and it was literally what had just happened two minutes before.

Felt weird as fuck

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 04/03/2022 21:56

I’m astounded that so many people also get it! I genuinely thought you were all going to tell me I’d lost it. Now just need someone to tell us what it is!

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Fernandina · 04/03/2022 21:56

I've felt like this for about the last ten years, and I'm still waiting for something to happen. Confused

Lacedwithgrace · 04/03/2022 22:00

I get it too, sometimes things happen after I get the feeling like DD hurting herself or finding I left the keys in the door. The last time I remember it happening was when the kettle blew up, I got the feeling about half an hour before and went to make a cup of tea to feel better. It's an intense, heavy feeling sort of like a brief moment of depression, then it passes and 90% of the time nothing happens.

Donson · 04/03/2022 22:00

Yep, it’s called anxiety Wink

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 04/03/2022 22:05

@Donson I’d get that if I was waiting for something ‘bad’ to happen but it’s not like that at all most of the time. It’s like a weird excitement/anticipation like something is going to happen but it’s not necessarily negative like anxiety/impending doom type vibes

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TigerYiger · 04/03/2022 22:06

Can totally relate. I found (via the app Clubhouse) a Canadian Dr who talks about this. He's self published a book that's on Audible too. I listen to him a lot, have chatted to him too. I'm in the uk so he's not so well known here. It's called anxiety Rx, he's Russ Kennedy. First fully qualified MD/GP I ever heard that talks about the stuff doctors normally dismiss. Anyway, might be of use to someone else too, thought I'd share as it's a rare find.

WeirdlyKind · 04/03/2022 22:07

It's boredom/lack of stimulation. You need to do something new to ward it off!

GeordieRacer · 04/03/2022 22:07

Yeah I get this. It's anxiety related, even if, like you say, it's not that you think the thing you're waiting for is 'bad'. I think it's the Ukraine situation at the moment causing it.

LizzieMacQueen · 04/03/2022 22:07

Do you also always look over the shoulder of whomever you're talking to in a crowded room. Not necessarily looking for someone 'better' but just looking, waiting.

MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 04/03/2022 22:08

I get this, but more like I'm on a cliff waiting to take a step, like I have to make it happen, like I'm holding my breath.

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DrierThanANunsNasty · 04/03/2022 22:16

@LizzieMacQueen no but I do always listen in to other peoples conversations when me and DH go out for dinner, it drives him mad Grin

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Nietzschethehiker · 04/03/2022 22:21

Yep and all the women in my immediate family get it. I'm the least woo person ever and frankly it took until my mid twenties to realise this was a bit odd, I just assumed everyone did it. On occasion one person will get an sudden feeling. They will usually text/ contact the other women. To check what's caused it. My dm has a dream she always says she has before hers (I'm sceptical....long history of this sort of thing and an impressive talent in elenerife tendencies).

I genuinely assumed it was a thing everyone did (the women at least) until I was an adult. Bloody thing has only ever been wrong once in 20 years. (And DM later admitted she had overindulged on the wine ...rare occurrence to be fair).

It's annoying as none of us particularly like each other so don't particularly enjoy contacting the others but it's proved useful to prepare for unpleasantness on it's way.

It's treated as an amnesty. We learnt long ago to listen to it and any familial arguments and tensions are put aside until the source of the feeling is found and then we retreat back to passive aggressive digs at each other and return to our own corners of the world. Wierdly for my dysfunctional family it's the only thing noone abuses to get around no contact rules. It's very pragmatic. Health and well being is checked on and the source is confirmed but that's it and noone takes the wotsit with it.

We don't mention it as a rule outside of the phone tree that happens when one of us gets it. It's not discussed it just is. Although I did have to explain it to DP when he got an unexpected phonecall from my very very low contact dsis when I was in the middle of a stroke asking him what was wrong. Many weeks later he asked how she could have possibly known (literally I had lost the ability to speak and use my arm ...its not like I could have told her )

I had to explain she didn't specifically know what she just knew something was off (before he tried to burn us at the stake) and also why my dsis who didn't actually like me (the feelings mutual) had rung him. That conversation has now also been filed under things it's best not to look too hard into.

Presumably it's not woo, it must be some form of instinct maybe ?

ZippyZap · 04/03/2022 22:26

Do you mean that feeling of just not being able to settle/switch off/do something relaxing?
I get this alot but it's normally after I've been really busy and just don't know how to stop or switch off... So even though I have nothing productive left to do I sit there and scroll or check in on emails and news etc. To pass the time as I can't actually just sit and watch something on TV etc. To pass the time as my brain won't let me....

ChocolateIsAlwaysTheAnswer · 04/03/2022 22:26

I've been feeling unsettled of late. Can't concentrate when I have free time and do feel very anxious

DrManhattan · 04/03/2022 22:29

Definitely had foreboding feeling before. And Deja vu but that's usually when I am very tired.

LondonQueen · 04/03/2022 22:34

Yes but it's normally when I'm stressed/anxious.

FurElsie · 04/03/2022 22:39

The missing but is - does anything big happen when you think it might? If yes, I guess you're psychic, if not just some weird obsessive thing in your brain that's best ignored

Joelypoley · 04/03/2022 22:57

@AutumnOrange Foreboding?

Cleanbedlinen12 · 04/03/2022 23:01

I wonder if it’s a side effect of the computer? After reading mumsnet I wake up at night and feel like this and then I just have to check it.

AutumnOrange · 04/03/2022 23:01

The word I was looking for is fey. Not sure if this is what the op means but it was bugging the hell out of me 😂

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