To ask them to stop all the photos on social media?

[CousinDelores]

I'm not completely no photos of DS anywhere, I have a handful on social media, nice family photos or particularly special days out/ occasions type thing. I also allow nursery to post pics on their parents Facebook page as DS is specifically identified on their.
However I recently realised that a few family members post numerous photos of DS everytime we see them. Just of him being a child so not always especially flattering either. The bit that concerns me aswell is that alongside the photos will be captions such as DS name at XY place with Aunty D and AB, so quite identifying personal info.
AIBU to ask them to stop this on 2 grounds:

1. Whilst I'm not completely strict about photos, I wouldn't want me life being documented in such way on social media, so it's not for them to do it to DS
2. Whilst I appreciate it is unlikely, if someone wanted to make themselves seem familiar to DS, they could easily do so with the information they freely give out IYSWIM

Also, if IANBU, how to I tactfully broach this with them?

It does sound like they're posting a lot of identifying info. But what do you mean, the pictures aren't always flattering? Children don't have to look a certain way in a photo!

Well today there is a picture of DS, hands down pants, scratching his arse I wouldn't want that of me on social media...

I think you can ask for your permission before posting photos of your DS. I never post photos of anyone’s child anymore without permission. I did used to in the past, but even if their parent has a lot of photos of their child on I would ask.

DiL told us quite categorically that we could not post photos of GC and we never have. Wouldn’t dare to be honest.

Your child, so always has to be on your terms.

I've been in a similar boat. I'm not totally against photos, I do post some but not a huge amount with strict privacy settings. Anyway, dm always posts random photos of my kids on her Facebook, where she has 2000 odd friends - she doesn't know them all. She'll sell something to someone and become friends with them and has random other friends.

You need to talk to them. Tell them it's not acceptable to post without your permission.

I was asked not to post photos of a child in our family and so I don't, You need to tell them otherwise they may not realise you don't want them to.

I’m strictly no photos. That’s my child’s digital footprint and that’s for them to decide when old enough. Never mind the information people can gather from photos of a minor, locally, and, the photos are uploaded to Meta/Twitter server and out of your control by then.
For all those reasons, anyone and everyone, family or not should have your explicit permission before uploading photos in which your child can be identified. I wouldn’t dream of posting photos of anyone’s child without asking first. Or I’d blur their faces.

You have to speak for your child as they can't

You aren’t being unreasonable at all. I’ve had real trouble with my family - my dad in particular - over this. Posting pictures of our son in the bath and so on.

You just have to be direct and say what you’ve said on here. My dad wouldn’t listen to me so I had to tell him that if he couldn’t keep pictures of my child off Facebook then he wouldn’t get to take any.

@CousinDelores

Well today there is a picture of DS, hands down pants, scratching his arse I wouldn't want that of me on social media...

Fair enough!