Rant about having to do it all when DH is isolating

[OliveOyl321]

This isn’t really a AIBU because I know I am.
3 children - 5, 2 and a 4 month old so life is busy. My husband tested positive for covid on Tuesday and has been self isolating in our spare room ever since. Very sensible, I support it. He feels fine, just tired and a bit of a headache thankfully.

But…it means I’m doing it all and I’m wrecked. We both obviously want to keep it from the baby and the other kids even though I don’t think they would be as affected. Me and DH are a team when he finishes work regarding DC - bedtime etc. He normally does the last feed for the baby while I go to bed. It’s the only time when I’m not on call with the kids if you get me. I scroll through here or read or generally just fall asleep before baby needs me in the night.

I’ve just tried to wrangle the two DC inside with tears and shouting (mainly them, some me 😂) and spotted DH through the window eating the tea I just dropped up and watching Netflix. I know it must be hard being in one room but right now I’d swap places for the peace! (Not making little of people suffering from covid, sorry).

Just feeling sorry for myself. AIBU for feeling jealous of the break he’s getting?

We both obviously want to keep it from the baby and the other kids even though I don’t think they would be as affected.

Why is that ‘obvious’ if you don’t think they’d be as affected?

Wow no way I could have done this OP - had similar age gaps and just zero chance I would have coped.

I have covid right now and I'm not isolating from my family... Others I've known who have done this have just prolonged the agony and it's passed round slower than it might have done...

I know two other men who've pulled this shit tbw. Ten days of leaving their wives to do everything while they hide. One with Covid, hiding, one without Covid, hiding from everyone else.

Funny how it's never the woman who gets to opt out of family life for a week and a half, isn't it?

Just dropping this in there, just because some kids are okay with COVID doesn’t mean they all will be. I have a young brother, primary school age, who had it and he was fine but his little friend in school had it and was taken to hospital twice, took nearly three weeks for him to recover. I’ve currently got it at 37 weeks pregnant and I’m staying in one room because I think it’s sensible and to be honest I’ve felt awful with it and don’t want my family to feel the same if I can avoid it. I don’t understand the judgement of “it’s not government guidelines anymore” when some people just don’t want their family to get sick.

DD and I have just had covid. DH managed to escape without testing positive. Aside from isolating entirely as a household, we just carried on as normal and didn't isolate away from each other.

I had covid last month...i stayed at home but did not confine myself to a room...my kids and partner didn't catch it.

Thanks for all the replies. We’re outside the UK so the advice is to isolate in a room. None of us are at risk, I had just been nervous of the baby. Don’t think the other kids would be as affected but wasn’t sure if bund’s immune system would be strong enough yet. As some of you have said though, Omicron is weaker.
In all fairness if I got it and he didn’t he would have taken over. And I will certainly be taking a night or two in the spare room when he’s out of isolation which he’d support.
If ye don’t think the baby is at risk maybe he could come out.

PP is probably right anyway about spreading the germs before the test came back positive.

He’ll have spread it before testing positive. It’s also airborne so again likely you’ll have been exposed already. It is not practical for one person to isolate when you have such small children.

Me and Ds had it a couple of weeks ago. We live with CEV fil, and we managed not to pass it to him. I had to do all cooking cleaning etc throughout even when I felt rubbish but wore a mask, washed my hands a lot, wiped things down and didn’t hang out in the same room. Maybe we were lucky but I was glad not to pass it on. Couldn’t possibly have locked myself totally away, however, I still had to look after everyone else 🤷‍♀️

@ShowOfHands

My dh did a 6 month deployment to the Middle East and would face time in the evening to chat to the DCs while they ate. I used to joke that he had eaten dinner cooked by their chefs, and left his crockery to be washed by various staff, housekeeping had made his bed and he was sitting and chatting to his children without having to do any shopping, cooking, cleaning, school runs, general life admin etc. And at the end of it all, he was sent to a beach for a few days to "decompress". Where was my decompression, eh?

We are/were both horribly unreasonable but it's hard work doing it all when you're used to teamwork. Twill be over soon though.

Sounds awful. (And a bit similar to me re: cooking, school runs etc). Pre- Covid my DH would travel for work, a few weeks at a time and I used to feel the same as you. It’s hard.

I don't get why people try to isolate within the same household. You'll either get it or not anyway. My 21 month old didn't catch it despite us going on as normal. It's also super mild for most people anyway.

@SirSamVimesCityWatch

I know two other men who've pulled this shit tbw. Ten days of leaving their wives to do everything while they hide. One with Covid, hiding, one without Covid, hiding from everyone else.

Funny how it's never the woman who gets to opt out of family life for a week and a half, isn't it?

Actually, I've done exactly that for the last seven days, neither my teenager nor my husband wanted to catch it and then miss work or college themselves, so I have isolated and my lovely husband has brought me tray meals every night and sorted everything else out. I am grateful, because I know he's knackered! But I can't say I haven't enjoyed the break (even though I am exhausted and muddle headed)

All three of my household have had it a separate times. Get him out-of isolation. My worst symptom was a sore throat. Kids were asymptomatic.