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Godparents for christening?

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Mumtobe2021x · 04/03/2022 10:57

So I wanna get my daughter christened she’s 6 months old , but me and her dad can not agree on the god parents , we originally agreed I pick god mother he picks god father within reason. So we agreed my 2 close friends can both be god mothers as I’ve been friends with them for about 10 years And they’re like aunties to her they come see her all the time and acc care about her . But her dad wants one of his best mates to be god father , but the thing is I can’t agree with him because he never botheres with the baby he’s seen her probably once and that’s not cause hes busy , as he sees her dad everyday pretty much but he ain’t bothered about her really he never even got her a card when she was born or anything. I said to him how about asking his brother as at least he acc sees her. But he said no he wants his mate. I think he’s just choosing him for the sake of it cause it’s his mate he’s not really thinking of my daughter. Looking for some advise as to what to do in this situation.

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KylieCharlene · 04/03/2022 11:04

You've chose the Godmothers so allow him to chose his mate.
Your Dad's uncle is going to be her life in 'Uncle' capacity anyway so really, in order for her Dad to have some input, just let him choose his friend.
I understand what you're saying about friend having nothing to do with your DD and I'd be quietly annoyed but I do think you need to let her Dad have a say.

AryaStarkWolf · 04/03/2022 11:27

YABU, you've already picked two people

horseymum · 04/03/2022 11:29

Who is going to be the best Christian role model? Is that not what they are promising?

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 04/03/2022 11:36

At 6 months old, a friend not being that interested in them its pretty normal really. DH has a few godchildren, and as babies he didn't really do much with them... but as they get older there is a lot more he can do with them. For example he takes ours and his mates kids camping with his mate. He does watersports with them. Throws a rugby ball around with them.

IstayedForTheFeminism · 04/03/2022 11:37

@horseymum

Who is going to be the best Christian role model? Is that not what they are promising?
You agreed that he gets to pick. Therefore he gets to pick.

Other than that I agree with this. Godparents are making promises before God.

MereDintofPandiculation · 04/03/2022 11:44

Not everyone finds 6month babies wildly exciting. lack of interest at this stage doesn't mean there'll be lack of interest as she gets old.

Mumtobe2021x · 04/03/2022 11:51

His mates are literally all on drugs another reason I didn’t want them

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TooBigForMyBoots · 04/03/2022 12:03

You agreed he could pick the godfather. YABU OP.

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