To think that distance doesn't make the hard grow fonder?

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Please do not be harsh
AIBU to think that over night distance (unless in an emergency) may cause a couple to grow apart?

My partner has a week long business trip to London and I just feel a bit anxious that we'll grow apart.

I had a difficult up-bringing which has left me with an anxious attachment style. I am fine with us working all day and not talking much, but I feel extremely anxious at the thought of him not coming home. It's not because I don't trust him, it's because I feel like he may realise that he prefers his life without me or that I don't deserve him? (Feelings I felt as a child all the time)

So AIBU to think that there is the possibility of us growing apart from this trip?

I assume you mean 'the heart grow fonder'?

I don't think a week will cause you problems. Just enjoy the peace and quiet, read a book, eat some chocolate, they will soon be back.

A week is not very long OP.

When you are used to spending every day with someone and have a good relationship a week apart feels a long time and you miss each other.

My dp and I enjoy going on holidays separately but we always miss each other and enjoy coming back together.

Ultimately, if it’s a good relationship a week can’t cause damage that wasn’t already there.

Kindly, OP- YABU. Me and my other half have weekends/nights away from each other fairly regularly. It’s always lovely to come back together afterwards, Catch up and have something new to talk about, and we’re always really pleased to see each other.
Look at it this way- do YOU think that you will find you prefer life without him while he’s away? Of course not. So why would he?
Sounds like you need some support with your anxiety and self esteem. I would see your go about what support is available to you. Take care x

GP of course, not go.

Well obviously she does. Don’t be that person over an autocorrect 🙄

Can you book yourself some things to do whilst he is away? Keeping yourself busy might help you to feel less anxious and give you something to focus on.

I think I know deep down that i ABU but I just feel like ever since I was a little kid, when there was some sort of change and someone wasn't around it usually meant that they left and never came back or that when they came back I find out they left due to an argument or that things were never the same again.

I know he will come back, I'm just worried things won't be the same. But as PP mentioned, if our relationship is strong, a week isn't much.

I just feel so anxious about this as I feel like that little girl who gets left behind and has no control over who walks out of her life. I know it isn't that situation but I feel like it is and I feel like 'that' little girl